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Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man: What Men Really Think About Love, Relationships, Intimacy, and Commitment

Steve harvey.

232 pages, Hardcover

First published January 1, 2009

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Book Review: Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man

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Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man by Steve Harvey

April 20, 2011 • By Jeff Carroll

Since this is my first book review I decided to take on the King of the Hill of relationship advice, Steve Harvey and review his best seller “Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man.” He and his book had a big impact on what I do. Now I started being interested in giving dating advice in 2002 a year after I got married. I wrote my first book in 2004 “20 Soul Questions for a Better Relationship.” I even started speaking at colleges as a dating coach in 2006 but when Steve’s book hit the shelves the fires turned up. “Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man” crossed over from the African American community to the mainstream white community. That meant race didn’t matter and advice was advice. My goal with being a dating coach is to reach everybody Black, White, Latino or whatever; that’s why I call myself a Hip Hop dating coach. This book helped me a lot so that’s why I chose it to start off my books reviews.

Now the main reason why I decided to add dating book reviews to my blog postings is because books are very helpful with personal improvement. Books are also hard to produce and they take time to write. In my workshops and in working with my clients I reference and suggest subjects and areas people need help with because no one person could address them all in one book. So books are a valuable tool in solving our relationship problems.

I will select books I think will help people address their problems or help them deal with the world full of people with problems. I will also review books which everybody else thinks are useful or helpful. I will use my condom rating system to give you my opinion. I choose to use condoms because condoms symbolize safe sex by protecting against STDs and providing birth control. My motto is, the safest place to have sex is in a relationship, so since I will be rating these books on how well they help you find a relationship, condoms are perfect.

Zero condoms A book which is a waste of paper and may make your life worse if you read it.

One condom means this is a book which may help you get laid or have a one night stand or catch an STD but it won’t help you find a loving relationship.

A three pack of condoms is a book which will help you but you will still need to put work in and have to read other books.

A twelve pack of condoms is a book which will help you find love.

A wedding ring is a book which is so good you need to buy the engagement ring now because this book solves all of your relationship problems.

My Review of “Think Like a Lady Act Like a Man,” by Steve Harvey, published in 2009.

First, I do not separate the lives of authors from the books they write and that goes double for self-help books. That being said I worked at the Apollo Theater for 13 years and with Steve all of the years he hosted Showtime at the Apollo.

Okay, my first thoughts of Act Like a Lady Think Like a Man stem from the title and what I know about the author. The title is good because it is important for a person to have an idea of how the people they are attracted to think. This is universally important for all varieties of people including people who are gay or straight and for both men and women. Not only should you have an idea of how they think but you should let it influence your actions. You should let their thoughts guide your comments and the things you do.

This type of thinking is the basis of consideration and the beginning of the compatibility growth process. I do not believe in soul mates or perfect connections from the beginning. All bonds take time to develop and the best time to start being considerate is before you meet. Since men do most of the approaching in couple formation they are used to factoring in the women they like’s thoughts. It guides their opening comments. But many women don’t always remember to factor in what a man is thinking. Many times women just think about what they want to say and Steve’s book is good for helping women improve their surveying process by revealing to them some basic motives of men.

This brings me to my next second thought of the book. This thought stems from what I know about Steve Harvey. All of the years I’ve known Steve to me he has been a self appointed Alpha male.

Now, let me qualify myself a little bit before I continue so I don’t just come off as an unwarranted hater. In addition to working at the Apollo I ran my own entertainment agency where I booked comedians. This I’ve been doing for over 23 years, since I was in college. I’ve booked and worked closely with Monique, Tracy Morgan, Bill Bellamy, Dave Chapelle, Chris Tucker and just about every black comic. I’ve watched male comics who had absolutely no pull with the ladies go on stage and be funny and then pick up the hottest groupie in the audience. Let me not say groupie (even though they fall into that category) I’ll say humor appreciators or new fans. Few comics were like Bill Bellamy who was able to meet the same women before he performed as he did after. I watched comics use their stand up performance to get girls so often I lost respect for comics who did that. It’s like cheating. If you are proclaiming to be a ladies man or a relationship expert you should be able to meet people without something artificial like an expensive car or flashing your money or a stand up performance. You should simply be able to go up to somebody and gain their interest and respect without telling them you play in the NBA or something. Most of the comics and other entertainers who I worked with at the Apollo used their groupies for sex and messed over them. I remember one comic bragged on how he had sex with 29 different women on a 30 day road trip.

If you look at Steve or listen to his radio show you would think he was always a top dog but I doubt it. I doubt he was ever class President or captain of the football team. His bio says he was once a mailman but now he makes jokes about blue collar men who want to get women. I believe Steve assumed his Alpha dog confidence after his pockets became full. Wealth does build confidence but you gotta keep it real. If you look at Steve’s first appearance on Showtime at the Apollo now you will see two different people. He wasn’t always the man he acts like now and to me that’s a core problem with his advice. He advises women to think like a man but the type of man he is talking to them about is the type of man Steve wants to be. Steve is nothing but a wanna be alpha male to me. Matter-of-fact I don’t think he’s a natural leader or naturally confident; I think his alpha feelings stem from his success bottom line. All you have to do is look at his first appearance on Showtime at the Apollo as a guest comic and you won’t be able to recognize the form fitted suit wearing Steve Harvey you see today. This incidentally is the case for a lot of men who make a lot of money but that’s a side point. Anyway, there are a lot of alpha males in the world and his advice works with them but most men aren’t alpha males. Matter of fact most of the good, available men aren’t alpha male. These men are better listeners and more considerate. They are not the stereotypic type of man you see on TV or in movies. Regular guys are not “dicks”, they are also the type of guys who don’t always get noticed. This then becomes the monkey wrench in Steve’s book and his advice. A perfect example of this is Steve’s 90 Day Rule, one of the most popular pieces of advice which came out of the book. The 90 Day Rule was one of the first tips women ran with. Steve was asked about it on talk shows and he flat out told woman to wait 90 days before they sleep with the man they are dating. He calls it the benefit package. This is an easy thing to suggest but I don’t find it to be the most effective way to decide when to become sexually active with a person. Just making a guy wait doesn’t bring out the commitment in him. If a man is a cheater or bad communicator making him wait doesn’t change that. Even if he has an STD or HIV in 90 days he will still have it. Making men wait just because you want to make them wait may turn off a sincere guy. I was celibate for three years and dated women without including the sexual element in my dating process. That was a big mistake. I confused many women on my level of interest in them and mislead them on the value I placed on sex. I found that making sex a part of my regular dating process was not a mistake. I do feel it’s important to think about it when you would like to have sex with someone. I suggest not to have sex on the first night but after that it depends on how the person you are interested in having sex with relates to you. I wrote an entire blog on when to have sex in a relationship in December 2010. In my blog I talk about respect and how to determine if a person respects you enough for you to have sex with them. The bottom line with Steve’s 90 day rule is it was designed to help women avoid players and meet nice guys and it fails to do that. It fails because players will wait 90 days to have sex with a woman. Also nice guys can have sex with women in the first week and marry them and be committed an entire lifetime.

My other issue with “Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man” is what made me call Steve a social terrorist. On page 97 of the book Steve answers one of the most popular and dear questions to women which is “Why do men cheat.” Steve gave the answer because “they can” as his base answer. I couldn’t disagree with this answer more. What his answer infers is that men who don’t cheat can’t. It also suggests to women that they must do the impossible by eliminating all of their man’s opportunities to cheat. That’s crazy. If Steve’s goal was to help women find men he makes that impossible with this answer. Some women who feel all men will cheat get so overwhelmed that they give up dating altogether. Now, I covered this in two back-to-back blogs. I wrote a blog explaining why men don’t cheat and another blog explaining what’s dangerous in believing they do. Both of these blogs are in January 2011. Like I said in my blog “My concern isn’t why men cheat just like I don’t think worrying about why people steal will solve the problem of stealing. I think what will help more is if women learn how the men who don’t cheat avoid the temptation of cheating. This will help women be able to identify these men and date them.”

Finally, I feel Steve’s intentions were good in writing his book and it has good information in it. I just believe that he comes from a certain perspective that represents a small group of men. I think his book is good for understanding schmucks and cocky asses but it may confuse or misdirect women who don’t mind dating a regular guy. Therefore I give Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man a Three pack of condoms. It is a book which will help you but you will still need to read other books.

Now most of the time I send my blog posts out to a group of friends to get their opinions before I post them. This time the comments were very colorful and I decided to post them along with the book review. Their names have been changed to keep the focus on me.

Peace Yo Jeff. Please make your own comment or holla at me [email protected]

I personally think this a great review of how you feel about his book. My personal view is as follows....I was unable to get through his book! I found it centered around how to get a man, how to keep a man and how to be all for your man! Well where does the woman factor in? Listen I believe women know when they sabbotage a relationship. I believe we all know what we need to do and how we need to behave. But I took Steve Harvey’s advice with a grain of salt especially since he is not the perfect example of a man who can keep a stable relationship. I also gave him a 3 pack of condoms!!

I don’t think it’s too harsh per se; I actually don’t think it goes far enough. I REALLY liked your post from last week, by the way. Meant to drop you a note to that effect. I forwarded it to a couple of friends.

Homegirl from the Library:

Yo Jeff! You make some valid points! I gave his book “one condom” because who is he to give advice when he’s had a couple of failed marriages. I like your review better! :)

The editor:

Oh, yeah. I did mean to say that I’d heard about Harvey’s failed marriages--which had me question his authority to speak. I enjoyed your analysis, however. Fresh!

Hey Jeff, The Steve Harvey criticism, I like it! I don’t know him personally but there is something about him that is assholish! maybe because he is cocky, I can’t pin point it about him but it’s something. You know me, controversy is good so let Steve Harvey have It!!

I really like ur review Jeff! I read Steve’s book and like u and I discussed before its a “reference” book for me. He has some valid points but others were too far fetched for me! I too disliked the fact that he explained why men cheat by saying “cause they can”...Really? My question then was well what has made my dad not cheat on my mom and stay married for over 30yrs and they love each other dearly! My parents still go out on a date 1x a month :) I will be totally honest and say that Jeff’s dating codes have helped me A LOT! I also agree with not having sex on the first date but that’s my choice and I don’t judge anyone who’s done that-to each his/her own. There are nice guys out there and if women take Steve’s book as the BIBLE then our society is in more relationship trouble than we thought. I too give it a 3pk of condoms!!

Peace & Love...

I do not think the blog is harsh...it very real. I am glad you are challenging his book I heard 50/50 reviews from women who read the book. My personal take on the book was it was ok but still lacked quality. When I say quality I’m referencing a small piece of it relating to the 90 day rule and why men cheat. Once women read those parts they felt...“Oh yea I’m gonna hold out because Steve’s book said to” not necessarily because they wanted to. I always challenged that because I said do you ask him if he was ok with the rule or is this just the women putting that in place. He could be sleeping with other women for 90 days & add you to the rotation on day 91. Most of the time the women was just imposing the rule and felt scared to discuss with their friend/ significant other in fear they may be kicked to the curb or called out about reading and following a man’s book who has had multiple relationships.

On the second of why men cheat, Steve’s answer was a blanket statement as stated below. Growing up I learned some men cheat & some don’t. The one who did cheat on girls, I would ask them why and they would say because I just know how to say no or if they blossomed they said because they never had so many women throwing themselves at him sexually and others would say they thought it was apart of being a man based on what they seen being imitated. The ones who did not cheat would say they were taught it was disrespectful & they wouldn’t want someone to do that to their female relatives or they had a father that cheat & they seen the household destruction it caused...for whatever reason they knew it wasn’t right.

Steve needs to keep it real and talk about his past and not always being wanted to his success and women just throwing themselves at him. Allegedly, I hear his current wife was his groupie... hmmm

Keep one hundred!!!!

I’m out...signed ck

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Book Review: Act Like A Lady, Think Like A Man: What Men Really Think About Love, Relationships, Intimacy, And Commitment

By steve harvey and denene millner.

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“I want every woman who truly wants a solid relationship to forget everything she’s been taught about men erase the myths, the heresy, everything your mother told you, everything your girlfriends told you, all the advice you’ve read in magazines and seen on television and find out here, in these pages, who men really are If you’re tired of being played with, then I want you to use this book as a tool to take each of the principles, rules, and tips in this no-nonsense guide and use them to anticipate a man’s game plan. No matter how good you are to a man, no matter how good you are for him, until you understand what his makeup is, what drives him, what motivates him, and how he loves, you will be vulnerable to his deception and the games he plays. But with this book, you can get into a man’s mindset and understand him better, so that you can put into play your plans, your dreams, and your desires, and best of all, you can figure out if he’s planning to be with you or just playing with you.” —Excerpted from the Introduction (pages 6-7)

Stand-up comic/sitcom star/TV show host/stage performer/movie actor/radio DJ/producer Steve Harvey was already a true Renaissance Man before he recently added relationship advice guru to his bag of tricks. After its release in January of this year, his book, Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man: What Men Really Think about Love Relationships, Intimacy and Commitment skyrocketed to #1 on the New York Times Best Seller list, and still enjoys that lofty spot as we go to publication [Hardcover Advice, as of April 19, 2009].

Apparently, the secrets about men he reveals on the pages of this much-needed how-to-tome are resonating with frustrated females of every demographic. As a result, Steve is not only making the rounds of the top talk shows like Oprah and Ellen, but expanding his own entertainment empire as his eponymous, nationally-syndicated morning radio show enters new markets, most recently replacing Tom Joyner in Chicago.

Let’s face it, Steve Harvey is a juggernaut who’s on quite a roll. And this critic is not at all surprised by this development, given that I’ve immensely enjoyed his last two stand-up DVDs and have also found the brother to be both hilarious and insightful every time I’ve had the opportunity to interview him.

As for the content of Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man, the title drops a big hint as to the sort of common sense advice inside. Still, every bit as important as the tough-love brand of relationship advice Steve has to share is his folksy, down-home tone which practically leaps off the pages in Technicolor, because he has convincingly translated his trademark charismatic anecdotal style to print despite the inherent limitations of the literary format.

But the big question remains: will the book deliver on its promise of helping you land Mr. Right? I’m not comfortable speculating about that, after all, I’m not a woman and thus not really a part of the target audience. That disclaimer aside, I’d say that he does have guys pegged, so his ideas at the very least are likely to prove valuable to impressionable young ladies who have been raised without a father figure in their lives, since Steve’s basic function here is to shed light on the difference between what men say and how they behave.

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'Think Like A Man,' And We'll See What Happens

Bob Mondello

Mya (Meagan Good), while dating Zeke (Romany Malco), follows the do's and don't's of dating advice from comedian Steve Harvey's real-world self-help book Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man . Alan Markfield/Sony Pictures hide caption

Think Like A Man

Director: Tim Story
Genre: Comedy
Running Time: 123 minutes

Rated PG-13 for sexual content, some crude humor, and brief drug use With: Romany Malco, Gabrielle Union, Michael Ealy, Steve Harvey

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'Strong And Independent'

Credit: Sony Pictures

'Chirp Chirp'

'Man Problems'

Oy, the things daters have to worry about these days. Not just how to dress, act and turn "no" into "go," but how not to become a chirp-chirp girl.

A what, you ask? Well, as comedian and broadcast personality Steve Harvey explains in Think Like a Man -- a film that illustrates the stereotypes and situations he wrote about in his self-help best-seller Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man -- she's the girl who puts up with a man who uses his key fob to unlock the car — " chirp chirp " — as he's heading for the driver's side and expects her to open the passenger-side door herself.

Meagan Good, playing a sweet, sensitive woman who's protecting herself by adopting Harvey's 90-day rule before succumbing to her boyfriend's advances, won't put up with chirp-chirping, or with any other guff from smooth-talking player Romany Malco.

And so it goes in this romantic rondelay. Commitment-phobe (Jerry Ferrara) dates girl-who-wants-a-ring (Gabrielle Union); mama's boy (Terrence J) falls for strong single mom (Regina Hall); independent career gal (Taraji P. Henson) meets head-in-clouds dreamer (Michael Ealy) who waits tables to make ends meet as he seeks kitchen cred as a chef; and divorced guy (Kevin Hart) misses feminine companionship so much that he's prepared to hit on a friend's mom (Jenifer Lewis). As the types pile up, it will occur to you that it's kind of amazing that humanity manages to procreate at all.

The story pits men who get together to drink, play basketball and fantasize about women, against women who gather at book clubs to complain about men. As the film begins, Harvey's guidebook is giving what used to be called "the weaker sex" an advantage. But then, the men find the book and ... well, you can see where this is going.

When the men — Jeremy (Jerry Ferrara), Bennett (Gary Owen), Michael (Terrence J), Dominic (Michael Ealy) and Zeke — discover the women are using dating tactics from Steve Harvey's book, they decide to turn the tables on their significant others. Alan Markfield/Sony Pictures hide caption

Tim Story, who also directed the ensemble comedy Barbershop , here takes time-honored stand-up material and turns it into something pleasantly sitcom-ish — kind of a knowing, urbane variation on the sort of thing that would get more earnest treatment from Tyler Perry.

The director doesn't require — and doesn't really get — distinctive acting from his cast, but every once in a while, the company manages to wink broadly at the film's genre. If you caught actor Michael Ealy in Perry's movie version of For Colored Girls , for instance, you'll get a kick out of the way his character here mocks his character there.

That's pretty meta for a movie based on a self-help book — a form that qualifies as a whole mini-genre in romantic comedy these days, what with Drew Barrymore's He's Just Not That Into You , Tina Fey's Mean Girls , the upcoming What to Expect When You're Expecting . (The phenomenon goes all the way back to the 1960s and Helen Gurley Brown's Sex and the Single Girl, which the New York Times bemusedly conceded was "not the worst picture ever made"). Also Woody Allen's loose, funny take on David Reuben's sex manual, Everything You Always Wanted to Know About Sex * But Were Afraid to Ask .

As with most of those pictures, there's a promotional impulse driving Think Like a Man . It's a little more blatant here, with everyone holding up Steve Harvey's book for the camera at one point or another — including Steve Harvey. All that winking makes it sort of a two-hour infomercial, but a decently amusing one.

Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man: Summary & Review

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Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man (2009) is a best-selling dating book for women . Steve Harvey, the author, shares his views on how men think and shares knowledge and dating strategies to help women secure a man, a happy relationship, and a wedding ring.

Bullet Summary

Part one: the mind-set of a man, 1. what drives men, 2. our love isn’t like your love, 3. the three things every man needs, 4. talking differences, part two: why men do what they do, 5. first things first, 6. sports fish vs keepers, 7. mama’s boys, 8. why men cheat, part three: the playbook, 9. get some standards, 10. the five key question every , 11. the ninety days rule, 12. let him meet the kids, 13. strong, independent -and lonely- women, 14. how to get the ring, 15. answer to question you’ve always wanted to ask, real life applications.

Men show love with Professing (introducing you as official), Protecting and Providing
Men need your support, loyalty and sex
Set your requirements, demands and needs early on

Full Summary

About The Author : Steve Harvey is an American comedian, television host and public personality. He is also the author of the sequel “ Straight Talk, No Chaser ” and “ Act Like A Success, Think Like A Success “.

In the introduction, Steve Harvey says men are simple and they all think in a similar way. He says that “Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man” is a playbook of sorts.

Steve Harvey says men are simple. No matter where he’s currently at, there are three things that shape his identity and self-esteem:

Who he is (his title)
What he does (how he gets the title)
The reward he gets (how much he makes)

A man must achieve a minimum in those three areas to feel like he is fulfilling his duties as a man. Before he figures out how to achieve his minimum goals in those areas he will be too busy to focus on you (and on family & relationships).

I also recommend you read a more scientific text on how good men think:

The Woman’s Guide To How Men Think

The Women’s Guide to How Men Think: Notes & Review

Harvey says men and women love differently.

Women profess their love many times a day and will probably expect their men to do the same. But men love in three ways instead, which the author dubs the “3 Ps”:

He will tell everyone you are his woman and he will introduce you with an official title. Conversely, if he doesn’t take you out and you haven’t seen his family and friends, you’re not there to stay.

The more a man can provide, the more he feels like a man. If he can’t provide, he doesn’t feel like a man.

That’s one of the reasons, Steve says, that poor men run away from their father’s duties: to escape their feelings of inadequacy ( indeed Tony Robbins says his father ran away when strangers donated his family food for Thanksgiving ).

Providing is not only monetary, but it’s also about helping to fix things, moving stuff, or solving problems. And that’s why you need to make him feel like he’s providing for you (later chapter).

3. Protecting

When a man loves you, he will defend you and stand up for you.

He will defend you physically, from people who are disrespecting you and by doing things he deems too dangerous for you.

Steve Harvey says a man needs three things:

Loyal Support

Love means to make him feel like he’s special, like he’s a king.

Loyal support means that you will stand by his side no matter what happens. Sex, well, Steve says men can only go a month without it. And if you start rationing out sex, he’ll be looking for it elsewhere.

When a woman doesn’t provide for these three things, the relationship is doomed.

Steve Harvey says men are about purpose-driven talk and solutions.

Men rarely open up like women do, but they like fixing stuff for you.

For more on gender difference (generalizations) read:

Men Are From Mars, Women From Venus

https://thepowermoves.com/men-mars-women-venus-summary/

Harvey says again that men are simple, and if they come to talk to you, they like you.

When he comes, he has two things in mind:

If you will sleep with him
And if so, how much effort it will take

Now that you know, he says, let him know what’s your price so that you won’t waste any time.

Steve Harvey says men divide women among women good for a night, and women good for long term.

My Note: This is the basis of the Madonna/Whore dichotomy

The key, says Harvey, is that it’s you who decides if you’re disposable or if you’re a keeper. By being a high quality woman , by setting the bar high and by demanding and requiring proper behavior, you communicate that you’re a keeper.

And here’s how to recognize if he’s looking for something serious or for quick fun:

He picks up the bill (VS asking to split)
Keeps his word and shows up on time
Introduces you his friends
Happy to meet your kids

For more details read:

Is he wasting your time?

Am I Wasting My Time On Him? Check These 7 Signs

Does your boyfriend put his mother above you?

That’s not a good sign as you should be a team. Check the book on why that happens .

Harvey says that men can have sex without emotions. Which means he can love you and still cheat for the simple act of sex.

For more on cheating read:

Why do people cheat
How to prevent cheating

The author says men like women with standards.

However, Harvey warns the readers this does not mean you get on a man’s face telling him what he must and must not do. You need some tact and some good presentation for your requirements (indeed high initial demands are a sign of low quality ).

Steve proposes you find out 5 things about him early on:

Long Term Plans : and how they fit into who he is, what he does, how much he makes
Short Terms Actions : is he acting on his plans?
Relationships : with his mother and God. How he feels about family and children
What He Thinks About You : you want details and examples (or he’s not thinking long term)
How He Feels About You : you want to see deep feeling (missing you, feels great with you, loves you..)

One and two tells you if he’s ready for something long term. Number 3 tells you if he wants something long term. Questions 4 and 5 come after you have been knowing him for a while.

These questions by themselves will also cause him to start seeing you in a different, and better light.

The ninety day rule relates to sex, and you can imagine what it means.

My Note: Making him wait for sex is a very common concept among women’s dating advice books . I think 90 days is a bit too long, check my article on why you shouldn’t let him wait for sex . But if you must, read “ how to delay sex effectively “.

How To Turn Down Sex & Get A Relationship

If you have children, Harvey recommends you introduce them early on because you also want to check for compatibility between them.

Harvey says that when a woman says she doesn’t need any men, men cannot provide and protect, and they feel useless.

For a couple good articles on the subject, check:

Successful women dating
How to marry power and femininity

Why Successful Women Fail At Dating (& How to Fix It)

Harvey says the only reason why he is able to stall marriage is that she hasn’t required him to set the date .

So you must make the ring a requirement for your continued relationship.

My Note: Use selective submissiveness and “in need” to get the commitment See a real-life example here:

text example to make men chase and invest

And read the full description here:

How to make men want to invest and protect using selective submissiveness

The last chapter is for questions and answer.

Let Him Take The Lead He will feel more like a man and he will like you more. Fix Your House Your house is a reflection of who you are.

Avoid playing nasty power games or overplaying your independence Men want women who make them feel important. Men want women who want men. They don’t want independent women or women who seek power in their relationship. So cut out nasty power games :

10 Nasty Games Women Play (Women, Stop These!)

I think that Harvey is a much better person to learn from than most other female authors who write for other women.

But still, there are a few cons here:

Dogmatic: men are not all the same

Steve Harvey purports to speak for all men.

For example, he writes:

I cannot tell you the fulfillment we have in knowing that we’ve secured your time (…) it’s all the affirmation we need

But that’s not how I feel, for one. And I’m not alone.

Why? Because “Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man” is:

Tailored Towards Providers Men

This book is tailored towards men who want (and need ) to provide for their women.

Not all men are like that. Some men want women who are more equals and who can work for themselves.

You don’t need to take my word for it: the most up-voted bad review on Amazon is exactly from that type of man.

Also read: “ lovers VS providers ” and “ psychology of womanizers “.

Inductive Fallacy

To prove that sleeping with him before 90 days is a bad idea, Harvey asks where are all the men you’ve slept with before 90 days.

But that’s an inductive fallacy and doesn’t prove anything. Most sexual relationships don’t last forever, whether you slept with him after 900 days or 900 seconds. Plus, women who are reading this book are likely looking for a man, which of course leads to almost all the readers answering positively -ie.: a trap question-.

I listed a lot of cons there because, well, I believe they are valid points.

But don’t get me wrong, “ Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man” has some genius content. And, as a rule of thumb women, try to read more dating books for women written by men. Women advise other women to be strong and independent, but that’s a covert manipulation and it’s not effective.

Particularly useful are the concepts that:

A man needs a minimum level of achievement before he can fully give himself to relationships;
Many men need to feel they provide and protect their women.

That’s true and Harvey is the only one of all the women’s dating books I read to stress that.

I also liked and fully agree with the concept that a woman should make clear, early but in a tactful way, what her final goals are (marriage or kids). And she should have a timeline.

That goes against what some other authors advise. But not putting your needs and demands early is, in my opinion, too big of a risk.

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The 2012 rom-com Think Like a Man is centered around a Steve Harvey self-help book, making for an interesting premise. But is it a real book?

Think Like a Man & its sequel are based on a 2009 self-help book by Steve Harvey, adding depth to the rom-com.
The stellar ensemble cast and unique premise make Think Like a Man a captivating rom-com with meta elements.
Steve Harvey not only wrote the book that inspired the movie, but he also appears in a fun cameo as himself.

The 2012 romantic comedy Think Like a Man is making the rounds on Netflix, leaving many audiences wondering whether it's based on a book. The film, directed by Tim Story, received mixed reviews upon its release over a decade ago, though it still managed to find significant commercial success. Like many old movies that end up on Netflix, Think Like a Man is finding a second life on the streaming service, with the movie and its 2014 sequel, Think Like a Man Too , attracting attention. The latter is currently in the top 10 Netflix movies in the United States.

Like many of the best rom-coms of all time , Think Like a Man boasts a stellar ensemble cast, with Kevin Hart, Gabrielle Union, Michael Early, and more in significant roles. It's centered around four narratives, each focusing on separate couples with unique dichotomies. The connective factor is a book titled Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man , which each woman in the various couples is reading. It makes for a captivating, unique premise to the rom-com that also has meta elements to it.

Think Like A Man & Its Sequel Are Based On A 2009 Steve Harvey Self-Help Book

Not only are the characters in the movie reading the book, but the movie itself is also based on concepts and ideas from the book.

There are many phenomenal romance book-to-movie adaptations , but it's far less common in the romantic comedy genre. As for Think Like a Man , the 2012 film and its sequel are both adapted from Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man , a Steve Harvey-written self-help book that was released in 2009. So, not only are the characters in the movie reading the book, but the movie itself is also based on concepts and ideas from the book.

Many audiences will recognize Steve Harvey as the television personality who hosts Family Feud , though, like many celebrities, he is also an author. From 2009 to 2016, he wrote four books, all of which were self-help books, generally leaning toward romance as a central premise. Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man has been particularly well-reviewed, and the idea of adapting a self-help book into a feature film is fascinating.

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Not only is Steve Harvey responsible for Think Like a Man's source material, but he also cameos as himself in the movie. As the film cuts between its different narratives, the various characters are all watching the same television program where Steve Harvey is on a talk show , answering questions about relationships from the audience. As each character watches the segment, they all react to his words, which pertain to their individual plot lines. It's a fun way to tie Think Like a Man together, with Harvey and his book as the connecting element.

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Book Summary Act Like A Lady Think Like A Man , by Steve Harvey

Do you want to meet the man of your dreams—but keep meeting duds instead? Are you struggling with an unhappy relationship? In Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man , comedian-turned-relationship expert Steve Harvey argues that dating issues like these happen because women misunderstand men—and to avoid heartbreak, you must learn to "think like a man."

In our guide, you'll learn what men need, how they think, and how they behave when it comes to dating women and forming lasting relationships. You'll also learn Harvey's strategies for finding the right man and keeping him long-term—and his recommendations on how to handle common relationship issues like infidelity. Along the way, you'll learn alternative dating strategies from other dating experts—so that you can get the relationship of your dreams.

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In Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man , comedian-turned-relationship guru Steve Harvey offers advice to every woman—whether single, dating, or married—who wants to attract and keep a man. He believes that many women struggle to form long-term relationships because they misunderstand men. To help women solve this problem, Harvey explores what men need, how they think, and how they behave when it comes to dating women and forming lasting relationships—and how women should behave in response to get the dating life they want.

In this guide, we’ll first resolve the common misunderstandings women have about men. Then, we’ll discuss Harvey’s tips for finding a man and how to behave in both the short- and long-term to keep him around. Finally, we’ll discuss Harvey’s strategies for solving issues you might face in a long-term relationship.

How Women Misunderstand Men

According to Harvey, many women’s dating struggles stem from the fact that they don’t understand men. Specifically, they don’t understand 1) what drives men, 2) how men love, 3) what men need from women, and 4) what men don’t want. But, Harvey argues, unless you understand these topics, you won’t know how to respond to the games men often play in relationships and thus risk heartbreak.

(Shortform note: The proliferation of writing that aims to help women understand men suggests Harvey isn’t alone in believing that women struggle in this regard. However, evidence suggests that men struggle to understand women, too—for example, men have difficulty reading women's facial expressions .)

In this section, we’ll explore these four topics to gain a greater understanding of how, according to Harvey, men think and behave.

What Drives Men

Harvey argues that men are all driven by the same motivations. They need to figure out three things to feel like a man: what their job will be, what their title will be because of that job (like “manager”), and how much money they’ll earn. Men are also motivated by the need to feel like they’re in charge in at least one area of their life—like their professional life.

(Shortform note: Experts suggest that male motivation may have different roots than those Harvey explores. For instance, evolutionary biologists argue that men are intrinsically motivated by the desire to reproduce . Moreover, research casts doubt on Harvey’s assertion that all men are driven by the same factors. In fact, one study on what motivates employees in the workplace couldn’t identify any factors that successfully motivated all participants . Rather, each employee was motivated by a unique mix of factors—which suggests that the same may be true of men, too.)

How Men Love

Harvey believes that one of the best things you can do to have a happy relationship with men is to learn how men love. He argues that a man’s love can be boiled down to three actions . (Shortform note: Other authors have highlighted other ways that men demonstrate their love for their partner. For instance, one relationship blogger lists 10 ways in which men often show their love , like being willing to compromise.)

1) He publicly uses terms of endearment. Harvey states that men like to stake claim to things. So if he introduces you to people he cares about with a title—like girlfriend—he’s letting them all know you’re his. (Shortform note: A 1993 study suggests that people who use terms of endearment may have happier relationships .)

2) He looks after you. Harvey argues that a man who loves you will try to provide for you financially—and if he can’t, he’ll try to look after you in other ways, like by trying to fix your broken refrigerator. (Shortform note: In The 5 Love Languages , Gary Chapman argues that everybody uses one of five different “languages” to express and understand their love. The love language of a man who looks after you may be “ acts of service ”: He expresses love by doing things that make your life easier.)

3) He keeps you safe. According to Harvey, if a man loves you, you’re his most prized possession, so he’ll make sure nothing bad happens to you. (Shortform note: Evolutionary biologists often refer to actions your man takes to protect you as “ mate guarding ,” which stems from your man’s biological drive to ensure that other men don’t steal his mate.)

What Men Need From Women

Harvey argues that you only need to do three things for your man to keep him happy:

1) Create a supportive home environment. Harvey argues that men need a woman who’ll relieve the stress in their everyday lives by expressing appreciation for them—not one who’ll create more stress by being unsupportive or uncaring.

2) Stand by him, always. Harvey asserts that a man who knows you’ll stand by his side, stay faithful, and support him no matter what is one who’ll stay loyal to you, too.

(Shortform note: Harvey’s first two ideas about what men need from women closely align with those of John Gray,...

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In Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man , Steve Harvey offers advice to every woman—whether single, dating, or married—who wants to attract and keep a man. He believes that many women struggle to form long-term relationships because they misunderstand men. To help women solve this problem, Harvey explores what men need, how they think, and how they behave when it comes to dating women and forming lasting relationships.

Ultimately, Harvey wants women to be able to “think like a man” while still “acting like a lady”—in other words, for women to understand and appeal to the male psyche while maintaining their femininity.

About the Author

Steve Harvey is an entertainer, broadcaster, and author. After breaking into the entertainment industry as a stand-up comedian in the 1990s, he soon transitioned into radio and television presenting roles. He’s perhaps best known for presenting the television game show Family Feud and the nationally-broadcast radio program The Steve Harvey Morning Show . Harvey has won numerous awards for his television work, including six Daytime Emmy Awards.

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Act Like A Lady Think Like A Man Summary Part 1: Understand Men | Introduction, Chapters 1-4: The Male Psyche

According to Steve Harvey, many women’s dating struggles stem from the fact that they don’t understand men. Specifically, they don’t understand:

What drives men
How men love
What men need from women
What men don’t want

Harvey argues that this lack of understanding puts women at risk of manipulation and heartbreak at the hands of men. After all, he notes, if you don’t understand men, you won’t know how to respond to the games they often play in relationships.

(Shortform note: The proliferation of writing that aims to help women understand men suggests Harvey isn’t alone in believing that women struggle in this regard. However, evidence suggests that men don’t always understand women, either. For instance, according to one scientific study, men may struggle to understand how women feel because [they have difficulty...

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It’s easy to believe you’re doing everything right in a relationship and be confused when it ends. But are you sure you were doing the right things for your man?

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Act Like A Lady Think Like A Man Summary Part 2: Find and Keep a Man | Chapters 5-6, 9, 13: Tips for Getting a Man

In this second part of the guide, we’ll examine Harvey’s strategies for finding and keeping a man. In this chapter, we’ll specifically explore his tips for the first stage in any relationship: actually getting a man in the first place .

Figure Out What He Wants

According to Harvey, the first thing to consider when you start to date a man is what he wants from you. Does he want to pursue you in the hopes of starting a relationship—or, is he just interested in sleeping with you? Harvey argues that in the vast majority of cases, it’s the latter scenario. Most men only want to have a fun, physical fling with you, and if you expect more from them—in other words, commitment—you’ll only be disappointed.

(Shortform note: Why might a man shy away from commitment and pursue only casual relationships? According to clinical psychologist Diana Kirschner, men who eschew commitment often do so out of fear . This fear can manifest in various ways, including fear of rejection, fear of not meeting expectations, or fear of revealing their flaws. Kirschner argues that...

Shortform Exercise: Learn What Your Behavior Says About You

The moment you first meet a man, he’ll start analyzing your behavior to figure out whether you want a long-term relationship or a casual fling. Reflect on what your present behavior around men says about you.

What is your first instinct when a man approaches you, and how do you behave?

Shortform Exercise: Set Your Standards for Your Life

It’s not easy to be clear about what you need from a man when you’re still getting to know him. But setting standards can save you a world of trouble down the road with the wrong man.

Have you ever taken the initiative to set standards up front in your relationship? Why or why not?

Act Like A Lady Think Like A Man Summary Chapters 11-12, 16, 20: Tips for the Early Stages of a Relationship

So, you’ve found a man, and you’ve both decided to give dating a try—what next? In this section, we’ll discuss Harvey’s tips for how to behave in the early stages of a relationship to ensure its long-term success : Namely, withhold sex for the first three months, introduce him to your children, and meet his family.

Withhold Sex for the First Three Months

If you’re looking for a committed relationship, Harvey recommends that you withhold sex for the first 90 days. Harvey contends that sex is a privilege of being with you, not a right—and you should evaluate him for 90 days to determine whether he’s worthy of that benefit. In this section, we’ll discuss why you should wait for 90 days—and how to get successfully to Day 91.

Why 90 Days?

Why 90 days? Harvey presents two reasons.

First, Harvey notes, 90 days is enough time to weed out any men who are looking solely for sex. But if he’s solely interested in sex, his patience will wane before 90 days is up and he’ll leave. In contrast, a man who will prove his worth to you for 90 days without sex is a man who respects you and as such is someone worth investing your time in .

Second, Harvey...

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Shortform Exercise: Is Sex Important?

Waiting to have sex with someone new can feel like torture, and you may not think it’s worth it. The decision comes down to the importance you place on sex in relationships.

Think of a time you made a man wait to sleep with you. Why did you make him wait?

Act Like A Lady Think Like A Man Summary Chapters 10, 14, 19: Tips for Long-Term Commitment

Now that you know what to do in the early stages of a relationship, we’ll explore Harvey’s tips for longer relationships. In this chapter, you’ll learn how to evaluate whether he’s worth a long-term commitment, how to tell whether you’re ready for marriage, and how to get him to propose if you are.

How to Evaluate His Long-Term Potential

Harvey argues that if you’re considering a long-term commitment with someone, you must ask him to clarify his intentions up-front . While Harvey recognizes that most women don’t do this out of fear of pushing men away, he contends that you must take this risk so that you don’t waste your time in a relationship with no future.

(Shortform note: If you’re ashamed of your desire for a long-term relationship because you think you should be satisfied without a man, you may also struggle to ask a man what his intentions are. If so, keep in mind what Levine and Heller note in Attached : In actuality, having a partner who fulfills your emotional needs helps you thrive because they make you feel safe enough to take bolder risks.)...

Shortform Exercise: Are You Ready for Marriage?

Wanting to be married and being ready to be a good life partner are two different things. How can you be sure you’re ready?

Do you like things to be a particular way, or are you open to change and compromise? Explain your preference.

Shortform Exercise: Make Your Man Commit

Many women want to wear the white dress and promise their love to someone in front of their family and friends. If this is you, how can you make this happen?

Have you ever been married or engaged? If yes, what led to your man proposing? If not and you’ve been in committed relationships, why have you never gotten to that next step?

Act Like A Lady Think Like A Man Summary Part 3: Resolve Issues | Chapters 7-8, 15, 17-18: Common Dating Issues

In the third part of the guide, we’ll explore Harvey’s strategies for facing various common dating issues. Namely, we’ll discuss how to handle infidelity and sexual issues, his relationships with other women in his life, and career-related issues you may face.

How to Handle Infidelity

As Harvey notes, both men and women understand that cheating is wrong, so why does it happen so often? In this section, we’ll discuss why men cheat, and what you should do if your man cheats on you.

Why Men Are Unfaithful

Harvey contends that men cheat for several reasons—and by understanding these reasons, you may be able to avoid situations in which your man is likely to cheat.

Harvey’s reasons why men cheat include the following:

Because they believe sex is just sex . Men are taught that sex can be a purely physical act without emotion attached. As such, a man can feel justified having sex with one person while being completely in love with someone else because in his mind, the two are not connected: Having sex with another woman has no bearing on his feelings for you.

Because they believe they’re smart enough to hide it from you. And because it’s just sex, if you...

Shortform Exercise: What’s Your Balance Between Work and Love?

Women are often expected to put their dreams on hold for a man, but your success is nothing to be ashamed of.

Think of a recent time when your job came into conflict with your relationship. Describe the scenario.

Shortform Exercise: Find the Relationship You Want

We all want someone to love, but finding the right relationship sometimes feels as likely as winning the lottery.

How has Harvey’s advice and guidance helped change how you think about men and how to approach them?

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Cliched relationship comedy has mature romance content.

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Fairly frequent use of strong language, including

Think Like a Man is in many ways a two-hour commer

Since most of Think Like a Man takes place at bars

Positive Messages

On the one hand, there's a positive message for young women that they don't have to accept a relationship the way it is and have the power to set higher standards for themselves and their partners. But there's no foolproof "formula" for a good relationship, and the advice differs for each couple, leading to so much advice that it could easily overwhelm a teenager new to romantic relationships.

Positive Role Models

Probably the best role model in Think Like a Man is the "happily married man," who's always willing to leave a night out with the guys to return to his wife. He pipes up when he's accused of being henpecked and says he loves his wife and wants to go home. Most of the guys think Steve Harvey is a traitor and then read his book to "defend themselves" against their girlfriends' demands for intimacy, conversation, professional ambition, and commitment. The women who stay true to their hearts end up with exactly the kind of man they need and want.

Sex, Romance & Nudity

It's not surprising that a movie about relationships mentions sex (or its many euphemisms) a lot and has several love scenes and making-out shots -- mostly between couples who've recently begun dating. Shirtless men, women in bras and panties or bare-shouldered and legged are regularly shown. In one of the earliest scenes, a shirtless man in bed flees a woman's house after a one-night stand. One guy who's known for womanizing is considered a "player." Mya refuses to have sex for at least 90 days/until her boyfriend says "I love you." Another couple has sex on their first date and then is shown in bed a few more times.

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Fairly frequent use of strong language, including "s--t," "a--hole," "bitch," "p---y," "t-tties," "jackass," "damn," "hell," "crap," "goddamn," "d--k," "douchebag," etc.

Did you know you can flag iffy content? Adjust limits for Language in your kid's entertainment guide.

Products & Purchases

Think Like a Man is in many ways a two-hour commercial for Steve Harvey's book on men and women, especially the first half, when Harvey himself appears many times explaining his various themes and philosophies on relationships. There are also close-ups of three different Mercedes Benz cars, and a Barnes and Noble features prominently in a book-buying sequence. During the basketball games, the guys wear a lot of Nike.

Drinking, Drugs & Smoking

Since most of Think Like a Man takes place at bars or restaurants, there's nearly constant social drinking -- wine, beer, hard liquor, shots, you name it. Jeremy is known for being a pot head, and he and Kristen smoke marijuana once.

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Parents Need to Know

Parents need to know that Think Like a Man has enough sex and relationship content to make it an iffy choice for immature young teens. And it's not just the passionate kissing and love scenes (men are shown bare chested, women stripping down to their bras and panties) that might be too much for some viewers -- there's also a lot of language (mostly "s--t," "a--hole," "bitch") and alcohol use, as well as some pot smoking. But for older teens who are ready to start thinking about romance, the movie does pose some thought-provoking (albeit a bit cliched) ideas about how different types of people approach meaningful relationships. To stay in the loop on more movies like this, you can sign up for weekly Family Movie Night emails .

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Based on Steve Harvey 's best-selling relationship advice book, THINK LIKE A MAN centers on a group of guy friends: unambitious commitment-phobe Jeremy ( Jerry Ferrara ), "player" Zeke (Romany Malco), flaky dreamer Dominic ( Michael Ealy ), mama's boy Michael (Terrence J), and their mid-divorce pal Cedric (Kevin Hart), who narrates the action. After the women in their lives -- proposal-ready Kristen ( Gabrielle Union ), monogamy seeking Mya ( Meagan Good ), high-powered superwoman Lauren ( Taraji P. Henson ), and single mother Candace ( Regina Hall ) -- read Harvey's self-help book, they start challenging their guys to live up to their standards, until the guys find out and start using Harvey's advice to get what they want.

Is It Any Good?

Think Like a Man is basically a two-hour commercial for Harvey's book, and he's mentioned constantly; that caveat in mind, the movie's plot is formulaic but still quite funny. (Viewers may laugh even as they roll their eyes at themselves for laughing.) Much of the humor is courtesy of Hart, who, as the group's soon-to-be-divorced friend, gets to play both narrator and joker the entire time, observing all his friends as they make misstep after misstep in their relationships.

The cast is full of many of Hollywood's most talented 30- and 40-something African-American stars (just when you wonder why Morris Chestnut is missing, he actually appears in a memorable cameo), and they supply a near-distracting amount of eye candy (a disproportionate number of scenes occur early in the morning or during workouts, just to show off everyone's bodies) ... which isn't necessarily a bad thing with such a paper-thin premise (i.e. guys need to grow up and treat their women better). When it's not bombarding the audience with Harvey's persona, Think Like a Man includes enough laugh-out-loud moments and sugary-sweet messages on love to be not only tolerable but pleasant, as cliché-filled romcoms go.

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Movie Details

In theaters : April 20, 2012
On DVD or streaming : August 28, 2012
Cast : Jerry Ferrara , Kevin Hart , Meagan Good , Taraji P. Henson
Director : Tim Story
Inclusion Information : Black directors, Black actors, Female actors, Latino actors, Multiracial actors
Studio : Screen Gems
Genre : Comedy
Run time : 120 minutes
MPAA rating : PG-13
MPAA explanation : sexual content, some crude humor, and brief drug use
Last updated : March 28, 2024

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While funny at times, this film was an example of just how low our standards have become when selecting a companion. Men can be shallow and so can women but we are shown just how devious each sex can be when they attempt to get what they want. The premise of this movie is that four women all read a book by comedian Steve Harvey titled “Act like a woman but think like a man.” In the book, Steve gives women an inside look at common lifestyles and desires that some men have and then he gives them advice on how to “change the game” by tricking the men into doing what their women want. When the men find out about the scheme, they use the book to their own advantage. In other words they all play each other for self gain. In the end, each realizes that they simply need to be truthful and actually show each other what they really want. Unfortunately, with over the top language and adult situations, this is not a family film.

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All 4 unmarried couples have sex outside of marriage, in fact that was sort of the goal for three of them. Frequent talk of, and maneuvering to have sex.

With 93 words or phrases of profanity used in the first hour of the movie alone I decided to stop keeping track. Its enough to say that every word imaginable was used multiple times including the misuse or casual references of the name of Jesus and Christ.

Alcohol used throughout; Talk of "bong hits" and one scene of a woman blowing out smoke implying marijuana use. No cigarette smoking though.

Excessive cleavage; shirtless men; women in lingerie; women in panties and bra.

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Think Like a Man

2012, Romance/Comedy, 2h 2m

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In Think Like a Man , an otherwise standard rom-com is partially elevated by a committed -- and attractive -- cast, resulting in a funny take on modern romance. Read critic reviews

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For one reason or another, friends Dominic (Michael Ealy), Jeremy (Jerry Ferrara), Michael (Terrence J) and Zeke (Romany Malco) just can't seem to seal the deal with the women in their lives. When their lovely ladies buy a book by comic Steve Harvey and start to apply its advice to their relationships, this band of brothers gets all shook up. Learning that they have been betrayed by one of their own, Dominic and his friends conspire to use the book's teachings to turn the tables.

Rating: PG-13 (Sexual Content|Brief Drug Use|Some Crude Humor)

Genre: Romance, Comedy

Original Language: English

Director: Tim Story

Producer: Will Packer

Writer: Keith Merryman , David A. Newman

Release Date (Theaters): Apr 20, 2012 wide

Release Date (Streaming): Feb 4, 2014

Box Office (Gross USA): $91.5M

Runtime: 2h 2m

Distributor: Sony Pictures Entertainment

Production Co: Rainforest Films

Sound Mix: Datasat, SDDS, Dolby Digital

Cast & Crew

Michael Ealy

Jerry Ferrara

Meagan Good

Regina Hall

Taraji P. Henson

Terrence Jenkins

Jenifer Lewis

Romany Malco

Gabrielle Union

La La Anthony

Chris Brown

Wendy Williams

Sherri Shepherd

Caleel Harris

Arielle Kebbel

Steve Harvey

Keith Merryman

Screenwriter

David A. Newman

Will Packer

Executive Producer

Rushion McDonald

Glenn S. Gainor

Larry Blanford

Cinematographer

Peter S. Elliot

Film Editing

Christopher Lennertz

Original Music

Marcus Miller

Chris Cornwell

Production Design

Charlie Campbell

Art Director

Set Decoration

Salvador Pérez Jr.

Costume Design

Kimberly R. Hardin

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This was another Netflix with my mum choice. Quite enjoyed it. Though there's a lot of couples, it wasn't hoo hard to keep track of which was which as it can be in an ensemble film, and mostly their stories were good. The mothers boy has me cringing, though I like how it turned out. I liked how the female characters were all strong women who knew what they wanted. Apparently there is a part 2, which I will be interested to watch as well.

Not exactly my favorite genre, but I found this movie enjoyable. Kevin Hart was a hoot!..especially in the video segments during the end credits.

Think Like A Man is a great comedy, a decent drama, and ends up being a pretty good film.

Another average ensemble romantic comedy film directed by Tim Story, written by Keith Marryman and David A. Newman, and based on Steve Harvey's 2009 book Act like a Lady, Think like a Man. The story follows four couples with different type of relationships. And each of the women could not succeed in their attempts to get "the upper hand" in these relationships until they discovered Steve Harvey's book Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man. When the men learn the women are hooked on Harvey's advice, they try to turn the tables on their mates, which later seems to backfire... It had its funny moments but with all the stereotypes, I'll say, it is for a limited market - American, particularly African American market... my wife even commented: "This must be written and directed by a black director..." and she was right! Most of the jokes would not work in other "colourful" situations (especially not with Asians). I enjoyed the cast (very attractive) who seemed committed to present us the funny side of the challenges in the modern romance, but never exceeded above the average. The few short love stories lack spontaneity because the screenwriter relied too much on the book, following it like some kind of recipe that at the end seemed more like a written report than something which could happen in real life. On the positive side, hangout factor is considerable and the effects involving actors' charms were very visible and enjoyable. Not bad, just for fun - when there is nothing better around!

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Even if you somehow never saw the book Act Like A Lady, Think Like A Man at the grocery store checkout line or in TV ads, there's pretty much no way you won't know everything about its contents, its message, or its author Steve Harvey by the end of the new movie based on it, Think Like A Man . Unlike He's Just Not That Into You , which adapted a self-help book into a bland and sprawling rom-com, Harvey's book is at the center of the equally bland and sprawling Think Like A Man -- the author and actor himself pops up frequently to dish out bits of wisdom, and all of the characters carry the book around as if it were the Dead Sea Scrolls.

It's unclear if writers Keith Merryman or David A. Newman simply couldn't think of a more clever way to adapt the material, or if Harvey himself demanded to hang over the moving like some advice-spewing Cheshire Cat, but Think Like A Man quickly becomes exhausting in adhering to its many lessons, all mostly about how women can manipulate the men in their lives to treat them better. There's the single mom (Regina Hall) who learns to be up front with her momma's boy beau (Terrence J), the frustrated long-term girlfriend ( Gabrielle Union ) redecorating her house against her boyfriend's (Jerry Ferrara) will, and the sly single gal (Meagan Good) who decides to wait a full 90 days before letting her new guy (Romany Malco) have the "cookie"-- come on, you know what this PG-13 movie means by that.

There's also a courtship between a high-powered executive ( Taraji P. Henson ) and an aspiring chef currently working as a caterer (Michael Ealy), the only relationship that breaks the mold by having the woman be the one who learns a lesson. All the guys hang out in a thrice-weekly basketball game, swapping dating advice and joshing around, which means their encounters occasionally focus on something other than the relationships we're seeing play out on screen ( Kevin Hart , in a fast-talking comic relief role, provides most of that). But the women talk exclusively about the men, usually in platitudes cribbed directly from Harvey's book, and at two-plus hours Think Like A Man might take as long as actually reading the book yourself.

To its credit, the movie is often much funnier than it could have been, usually thanks to Hart or some jabs amongst the guys that zing a little harder than you expect-- though Union and Good both take advantage of their straightforward characters to add spots of comic zest as well. Tim Story, who made Barbershop before a misguided venture into the Fantastic Four movies, directs with a quick pace and a willingness to cut his performers loose when necessary, especially Hart, whose storyline only develops near the end but pays off nicely. And the glossy production design gives the women fantastic outfits and every apartment, no matter how humble, a sitcom-y sheen-- no small compensation when the story stalls out in the second act and your mind may wander to wondering how Good maintains such a great manicure in every scene.

Early on in the movie two different characters take shots at Tyler Perry movies, setting them up as the kind of lame rom-coms that everyone in this world ought to be moving past. And if Tyler Perry's melodramatic tales-- in which love is only possible once you've undergone hardship and embraced Jesus together-- are really the only model for African-American relationships at the movies these days, then Think Like A Man really is something special, if only for being as zippy, bland and secular as any other studio romantic comedy. By relying heavily on gender stereotypes that assume every woman wants to get married-- unless it's Henson's character, "The woman who is her own man"-- and every man wants nothing more than to play basketball and drink with his buddies, Think Like A Man sets up easy sides in its game of love, then spends two hours pretending it's difficult to reconcile the two. As in any rom-com, no one's actual relationship is like this, but that doesn't mean we can't continue taking some very guilty pleasure in watching it all play out anyway.

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Think Like a Man

Translating Steve Harvey's bestseller "Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man" into a four-pronged romantic comedy, Tim Story's breezy if predictable film overstays its welcome.

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Translating Steve Harvey ‘s bestseller “ Act Like a Lady , Think Like a Man ” into a four-pronged romantic comedy, Tim Story ‘s breezy if predictable film overstays its welcome. While the result deserves some credit for finding a creative way to bring the book to life, the overlapping storylines simply aren’t compelling enough, despite the best efforts of a game and attractive cast. Mostly, “Think Like a Man” plays like shrewd promotion for the book, but the best advice would be to skip the former and read the latter. Pic falls somewhere between raucousness and date-night schmaltz, and returns should be similarly mixed.

Whatever the film’s assets, more than two hours is a lot to ask of an audience with this sort of flimsy construct, even with multiple stories designed to convey various aspects of Harvey’s guide to helping women understand men on the subject of relationships. Harvey, the multifaceted comic, appears as a talkshow guest plugging the book ( Sherri Shepherd has a cameo as the daytime host), then turns up throughout directly addressing the camera.

The conceit is that the book becomes such a sensation that women begin rushing to absorb its secrets and crack the male code. The primary twist, such as it is, involves their practicing Harvey’s teachings to achieve their goals, only to have the men eventually buy the book as well and realize they’re being manipulated.

Regarding those males, several varieties Harvey identifies are conveniently represented by one group of friends who play basketball together several times each week. They include the mama’s boy (Terrence J), who becomes involved with single mom Candace ( Regina Hall ); the dreamer ( Michael Ealy ), who stumbles into a liaison with Lauren ( Taraji P. Henson ), a successful businesswoman who wants a man equally well situated; the non-committer (“Entourage’s” slimmed-down Jerry Ferrara), whose Peter Pan routine is beginning to wear on his longtime girlfriend ( Gabrielle Union ); and the ladies man (“Weeds'” Romany Malco), who is forced to actually try wooing Mya ( Meagan Good ), who, after one too many one-night stands, follows Harvey’s maxim about withholding sex in order to find true love.

Finally, there’s Cedric (comedian Kevin Hart), the divorced guy who keeps regaling the group with stories about his ex-wife, frequents strip clubs and functions as narrator, while providing a steady infusion of manic energy seemingly designed to prevent the sappier aspects from weighing down the comedy.

Each of the intersecting plots could be (and indeed, has been) stretched into a romantic comedy all its own. Yet if blending them together offers a way of hedging bets and maximizing opportunities for laughs, it also becomes somewhat numbing, especially in the later stages when Story and writers Keith Merryman and David A. Newman have to race around attempting to neatly tie up all their plot threads.

Best known for “Barbershop” before his sojourn into the spandex-clad world of “Fantastic Four,” Story does deliver some funny moments, and incorporates enough cameos (including NBA players, Chris Brown and radio/TV host Wendy Williams) to leave few marketing stones unturned.

That said, some scenes drag on interminably, particularly when the women or guys are alone discussing dating strategies. One sequence in which the warring factions separately recount a date brings to mind the “Summer Lovin’?” number from “Grease,” only with less music and more drawn out. There’s also something rather quaint, frankly, about the premise of a dating-advice book being so influential, as if there were a dearth of them, or Oprah’s Book Club were still in its heyday.

Pic does make good use of its Los Angeles environs and an expansive soundtrack, especially in the more romantic moments. Kudos, too, to the glamorous way the movie adorns its leading ladies. Ultimately, though, “Think Like a Man” dilutes its strengths — perhaps because nobody bothered to think like an editor.

Production: A Sony Pictures Entertainment release of a Screen Gems presentation of a Rainforest Films production. Produced by Will Packer. Executive producers, Steve Harvey, Rushion McDonald, Rob Hardy, Glenn S. Gainor. Directed by Tim Story. Screenplay, Keith Merryman, David A. Newman, based on the book "Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man" by Steve Harvey.
Crew: Camera (Deluxe color), Larry Blanford; editor, Peter S. Elliot; music, Christopher Lennertz; production designer, Chris Cornwell; art director, Charlie Campbell; set decorator, Beth Wooke; costume designer, Salvador Perez; sound (Dolby Digital/SDDS/Datasat), Shawn Holden; supervising sound editor, Michael J. Benavente; assistant director, Steve Danton; casting, Kimberly R. Hardin. Reviewed at Sony Studios, Culver City, Calif., April 3, 2012. MPAA Rating: PG-13. Running time: 122 MIN.
With: Dominic - Michael Ealy Jeremy - Jerry Ferrara Mya - Meagan Good Candace - Regina Hall Cedric - Kevin Hart Lauren - Taraji P. Henson Michael - Terrence J Loretta - Jenifer Lewis Zeke - Romany Malco Bennett - Gary Owen Kristen - Gabrielle Union Alex - Chris Brown With: Steve Harvey, Sherri Shepherd.

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Think Like a Man: A Rom-Com with a Self-Help Twist

T he 2012 romantic comedy Think Like a Man , directed by Tim Story, has found a new audience on Netflix, sparking interest in its origins. With its ensemble cast and unique premise centered around a self-help book, the film offers a fresh take on the rom-com genre.

The Premise

Think Like a Man follows four interconnected narratives, each focusing on different couples navigating their relationships. The common thread is the self-help book Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man by Steve Harvey, which the women in the couples are reading. This meta element adds depth and intrigue to the storytelling.

Based on Steve Harvey’s Book

The film is adapted from Harvey’s 2009 self-help book of the same name. Harvey, known for his television work on Family Feud , wrote several self-help books, and Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man received positive reviews for its relationship advice. The decision to adapt a self-help book into a feature film was unconventional but proved successful.

Steve Harvey’s Cameo

In addition to inspiring the film’s premise, Harvey makes a cameo appearance as himself in Think Like a Man . His character appears on a talk show within the film, offering relationship advice that mirrors the struggles of the main characters. This clever integration reinforces the connection between Harvey’s book and the film’s narrative.

Is Think Like a Man based on a book?

Yes, the film is based on the self-help book Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man by Steve Harvey.

Who is Steve Harvey, and what is his role in the film?

Steve Harvey is a television personality known for hosting Family Feud . In Think Like a Man , he not only inspired the film’s premise with his book but also makes a cameo appearance as himself, offering relationship advice on a talk show.

What makes Think Like a Man unique in the rom-com genre?

The film’s unique premise incorporates self-help concepts from Harvey’s book, adding depth to the storytelling. Each narrative thread revolves around characters applying the book’s principles to their relationships, making it both entertaining and educational.

Think Like a Man offers a refreshing twist on the traditional rom-com formula, blending humor, romance, and self-help concepts. With its resurgence on Netflix and continued popularity, the film demonstrates the enduring appeal of well-executed romantic comedies.

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“Harvey offers surprising insights into the male mentality and gives women strategies for taming that unruly beast.” — Philadelphia Inquirer

“Women should listen to Steve Harvey when it comes to what a good man is about. Steve Harvey dispenses a lot of fabulous information about men.” —Aretha Franklin

The #1 New York Times bestseller from the new guru of relationship advice, Steve Harvey’s Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man is an invaluable self-help book that can empower women everywhere to take control of their relationships. The host of a top-rated radio show listened to by millions daily—and of cable TV’s The Steve Harvey Project —Harvey knows what men really think about love, intimacy, and commitment. In Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man , the author, media personality, and stand-up comedian gets serious, sharing his wealth of knowledge, insight, and no-nonsense advice for every good woman who wants to find a good man or make her current love last.

Print length 240 pages
Language English
Publisher Amistad
Publication date 22 November 2011
Dimensions 2.54 x 14.73 x 21.34 cm
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Steve Harvey can’t count the number of impressive women he’s met over the years—women who can run a business, keep a household with three kids in tiptop shape, and chair a church group all at the same time. So when it comes to relationships, why can’t these women figure out what makes men tick? According to Steve it’s because they’re asking other women for advice when they should be going directly to the source. In Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man , Steve lets women inside the male mindset; introduces concepts such as the ninety-day rule; and reveals the five questions women should ask a potential partner to determine how serious he is.

Sometimes funny, sometimes direct, but always truthful, Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man is a book you must read if you want to understand how men think when it comes to relationships, intimacy, and love.

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Steve Harvey is the author of the number one New York Times bestsellers Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man and Straight Talk, No Chaser . He is the host of his daily talk show and the game show Family Feud , in addition to his nationally syndicated Steve Harvey Morning Show on the radio. The Emmy Award winner is also the founder of the Steve and Marjorie Harvey Foundation.

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Steve Harvey is a media conglomerate personified in a man whose career began doing stand-up comedy in the mid-1980s. His success as a stand-up comedian eventually led to a long stint as host of It’s Showtime at the Apollo. His stand-up success has also led to multiple TV shows and movies, serving various roles on some projects acting, hosting, writing and producing, and his career has continued to flourish, becoming a top-rated radio host, fashion entrepreneur, best-selling author, popular game show host on Family Feud, and 2013 People’s Choice Award winner as “Favorite New Talk Show Host” for his new daytime show Steve Harvey. Harvey just recently renewed deals in January 2013 for his daytime show and radio show.

On television, in addition to a seven-year stint hosting Apollo, he starred in ABC’s Me and The Boys, the WB shows The Steve Harvey Show for six seasons and Steve Harvey’s Big Time Challenge for two seasons. In 2012 Harvey also celebrated his 12th year as the only host of BET’s Celebration of Gospel. Harvey has also hit the big screen in movies such as Love Don’t Cost a Thing, You Got Served, Johnson Family Vacation, Madea Goes to Jail, and the #1 box office smash Think Like A Man, which was released in 2012 and adapted from his #1 book.

Throughout his award-winning career, Harvey has never lost sight of his passion for stand-up comedy, touring the U.S and Canada. In 1997 he toured as one of the Kings of Comedy alongside Cedric The Entertainer, the late Bernie Mac and D.L. Hughley. The tour’s immediate success led to the taping of one of the most successful comedy films in history – The Original Kings of Comedy – directed by Spike Lee. In 2006 he released Don’t Trip…He Ain’t Through With Me Yet, a clean and family-friendly DVD, unlike any he had ever done before. Due to overwhelming demand for his original style of tell-it-like-it-is comedy, Harvey released the comedy special Still Trippin, on DVD in 2008 to critical success. In 2011 he paired up with Grammy Award winner Kirk Franklin, creating the first-ever Steve Harvey and Kirk Franklin Comedy Gospel Tour. Later that year, Harvey kicked off his final stand-up comedy tour, where he hung up his touring days with his final stand-up show (Steve Harvey’s Grand Stand-Up Finale on Pay-Per-View) in Las Vegas on August 2, 2012.

Currently Steve Harvey is the host of the long-running syndicated game show Family Feud, in his third season as host. Since Season 14 of the show premiered on September 10, 2012, Family Feud has been soaring to record-high ratings. Harvey’s memorable reactions and hilarious rapport with the competing families have rejuvenated the series and been widely praised, with ratings continuing to surge and smash records since his debut as the new host in September 2010.

On September 4, 2012, Steve Harvey debuted his new syndicated daytime show Steve Harvey, a one-hour daily program combining Harvey’s humorous “everyday man” perspective and covering relationships, parenting, the workplace and a range of other topics discussing everyday life with the guests and audience. Produced by Endemol USA and executive produced by Harvey, business partner Rushion McDonald, and showrunner Alex Duda, Harvey’s talk show is airing in 98% of the country, and being distributed by NBCUniversal Domestic Television Distribution. A continuing hit with audiences, Harvey recently won the 2013 People’s Choice Award honors as “Favorite New Talk Show Host” and the show was renewed for a second season in national syndication.

In September 2000, Harvey created the nationally syndicated Steve Harvey Morning Show, which currently airs Monday – Friday, 6 – 10 a.m. EST with nearly 70 radio stations and approximately 6 million weekly listeners. Syndicated by Premiere Networks since 2005, the #1 rated morning show is the only Urban Syndicated Radio Network that is broadcasting in 8 of the Top 10 radio markets. With the show’s continued growth, Harvey recently renewed and extended his relationship with Clear Channel Media and Entertainment, to continue the show’s expansion internationally as well as work on a variety of joint ventures in programming development, events and more, and also serve as a spokesperson for the company.

The Steve Harvey Morning Show has also allowed him to share relationship advice with his listeners through the “Strawberry Letter” segment, where he responds to relationship questions. This segment’s popularity led to a book deal with HarperCollins. His first book Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man: What Men Really Think About Love, Relationships, Intimacy, and Commitment, was released on January 27, 2009. Harvey’s must-have guide gave women the upper hand on dating with the inside scoop on the male mind, understanding his game, and anticipating his moves, with the widely-acclaimed book staying on the New York Times Best Sellers List for 64 weeks. Selling over 2.8 million copies worldwide thus far, Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man has hit #1 in the U.S., Dubai, Malaysia, South Africa and other places, been translated into over 30 languages, and adapted into a major motion picture by Screen Gems Pictures.

Released on April 20, 2012, the hotly-anticipated Screen Gems/Sony Pictures Entertainment film Think Like A Man quickly made box office history, with audiences packing in sold-out showings at theaters across the country, unseating The Hunger Games’ month-long box office reign at #1. Starring Taraji P. Henson, Michael Ealy, Gabrielle Union, Kevin Hart, Meagan Good, Romany Malco, Jerry Ferrara and more, Think Like A Man topped the box office as the #1 movie in America its opening weekend, and remained #1 at the box office for a second consecutive weekend, to become the highest-grossing April release with over $60 million in ten days. Produced by Rainforest Films’ Will Packer, who also collaborated with Screen Gems on such hits as Stomp The Yard, This Christmas, and Takers, Harvey is also one of the executive producers and appears as himself in the movie. The Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man book was also re-released in paperback, and has hit #1 on the New York Times Best Sellers List again.

Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man’s runaway success added another dimension to his life and career, as a sought-after advisor sharing the male perspective. Extending his role, Harvey made multiple appearances on Good Morning America as a contributor on family and relationships and had a monthly relationship column in Essence Magazine; he also launched the dating site LocateYourLove.com.

On December 7, 2010, HarperCollins released Harvey’s highly-anticipated second book, Straight Talk, No Chaser: How to Find, Keep, and Understand a Man, which quickly became another best seller, debuting at #1 on the New York Times Best Sellers List. Laying out a 3-Tier, CIA style of questioning that will leave men no choice but to cut to the chase and deliver the truth, Harvey also provides dating tips Decade-by-Decade, providing insight into what men are looking for in a mate, and the changes that come, whether you’re in your 20s or a senior entering the dating pool again. Straight Talk, No Chaser was also re-released in paperback on August 28, 2012.

The popularity of the Steve Harvey Morning Show and the inspirational advice, comedy segments and book also landed Steve Harvey and his co-hosts on the CENTRIC TV network with The Steve Harvey Project, which premiered November 15, 2010. Receiving rave reviews, The Steve Harvey Project, an hour-long show that aired nightly, captured the fast-paced morning show each day with new and beloved comedy skits, celebrity interviews, the Strawberry Letter, in-studio contestants for Harvey’s weekly singing talent show, and the weekly Locate Your Love dating segment.

Long dedicated to philanthropy, Steve Harvey believes that “dreaming is more important than anything.” Harvey, together with his wife Marjorie, continue their unending pursuit to further uplifting, educational opportunities with young men and women through The Steve & Marjorie Harvey Foundation. As a partner with Walt Disney World, Harvey has created the annual Disney’s Dreamers Academy, a program mentoring 100 teenage boys and girls, inspiring and exposing them to a number of job skills and career opportunities. He launched The Steve Harvey Mentoring Program for Young Men in 2009, a camp for teenage boys from around the country who are without fathers, to share insights and skills to navigate manhood. Hosting 100 boys annually in Dallas, Harvey has continued to expand the initiative, hosting satellite programs in additional cities. Together, with the Steve Harvey Mentoring Program for Young Men and the Girls Who Rule the World Mentoring Weekend, The Steve & Marjorie Harvey Foundation has reached over 1000 boys and girls in total so far. Honored by the Trumpet Awards in January 2010 with their highest honor, the Pinnacle Award, Harvey continues to break new ground in creating and supporting programs that will make a difference in the lives of everyday people. For all that he continues to do in the community Harvey was named Humanitarian of the Year at the 2011 BET Awards.

2012 marked the 10th Anniversary for the Neighborhood Awards, the popular awards show honoring community businesses and leaders in the nation. A four-day event created by Harvey and producing partner Rushion McDonald to uplift the community, the Ford Neighborhood Awards is their biggest event every year, giving recognition to local businesses, religious establishments, and community leaders serving their neighborhoods, and will now be known as the Neighborhood Awards.

While working on all of these projects, Harvey has not lost sight of his passion for fashion and continues to expand his clothing and accessories brand, The Steve Harvey Collection, providing quality choices for men and young boys to look sharp. Never to rest on his laurels, Steve Harvey expanded his highly successful clothing line when he launched The Steve Harvey Women’s Collection with K&G on August 21, 2012.

His multi-faceted success has led to appearances on numerous morning, talk, news and late-night shows including The Oprah Winfrey Show, Nightline, Good Morning America, ABC World News with Diane Sawyer, The Ellen DeGeneres Show, The Tyra Banks Show, The Early Show, Late Night with Conan O’Brien, The View, CNN, Piers Morgan Tonight and Larry King Live, and he has also guest-hosted Who Wants To Be A Millionaire.

Born in West Virginia, Harvey was raised in Ohio the youngest of five children. A dedicated husband and father, together with his wife Marjorie they are parents to seven children ranging in age from teens to twenties. With a wide range of fans from kids to adults of all ages, whether reaching people as a comedian, radio personality, author, TV host, actor, entrepreneur or philanthropist, Harvey remains true to making personal connections through faith, uplifting words and actions, and everyday life, all while sharing laughs and good times worldwide. Steve Harvey, well-known for his side-splitting comedy, has broken the mold, reinvented himself, and is widely known for his savvy business sense, and genuine passion for his family and helping others. This is a man that lives life to its fullest, thanks God for every new day, and always believes in the power of a dream – the future shows no signs of slowing down in the life of Steve Harvey.

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New York Times best-selling author DENENE MILLNER is a highly respected and sought after award-winning journalist whose captivating books, columns and essays have secured her foothold in the entertainment, parenting, book publishing and social media industries. The veteran author has written and collaborated on 31 critically acclaimed and bestselling books, penning tomes with Taraji P. Henson, Will Smith, Charlie Wilson and Jessye Norman, among other celebrities, and co-authoring “The Vow,” the novel on which the hit Lifetime movie, “With This Ring” was based. She also has been a frequent contributing entertainment, parenting and relationships writer for some of the nation’s most well-read and respected magazines, penning high-profile cover stories on everyone from hit filmmaker Tyler Perry and Scandal’s Kerry Washington to super star George Clooney and The Walking Dead’s Lauren Cohan, for Essence, Women’s Health, Ebony and other top publications.

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The age-old battle of the sexes is equipped with some fresh ground rules in the astute, contemporary romantic comedy, Think Like a Man .

As executed by an appealing ensemble of smooth operators, this adaptation of the Steve Harvey advice book Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man often hits its amusing marks, but with a weighty running time of two hours, it often feels more like a lecture than an intended romp.

The Bottom Line An attractive, game cast helps liven up this handsome but overlong urban rom-com.

Nevertheless, that attractive cast and the silky production values, combined with Harvey’s loyal radio, stand-up and Family Feud following, should ensure that the Screen Gems release opens strongly, drawing an urban audience in the market for a more urbane Tyler Perry .

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His first book Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man: What Men Really Think About Love, Relationships, Intimacy, and Commitment, was released on January 27, 2009. ... 2010. Receiving rave reviews, The Steve Harvey Project, an hour-long show that aired nightly, captured the fast-paced morning show each day with new and beloved comedy skits ...
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The Amazon Book Review Book recommendations, author interviews, editors' picks, and more. Read it now. ... His first book Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man: What Men Really Think About Love, Relationships, Intimacy, and Commitment, was released on January 27, 2009. Harvey's must-have guide gave women the upper hand on dating with the inside ...
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A wedding ring is a book which is so good you need to buy the engagement ring now because this book solves all of your relationship problems. My Review of "Think Like a Lady Act Like a Man," by Steve Harvey, published in 2009. First, I do not separate the lives of authors from the books they write and that goes double for self-help books.
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After its release in January of this year, his book, Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man: What Men Really Think about Love Relationships, Intimacy and Commitment skyrocketed to #1 on the New York Times Best Seller list, and still enjoys that lofty spot as we go to publication [Hardcover Advice, as of April 19, 2009].
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OCLC. 471823888. Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man: What Men Really Think About Love, Relationships, Intimacy, and Commitment is a 2009 self-help book by Steve Harvey which describes for women Harvey's concept of how men really think of love, relationships, intimacy, commitment, and how to successfully navigate a relationship with a man.
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A battle-of-the-sexes comedy adapts Steve Harvey's self-help book Act Like A Lady, Think Like a Man, illustrating the comedian's words of wisdom with familiar dating situations and stereotypes.
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By Lucio Buffalmano / 9 minutes of reading. Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man (2009) is a best-selling dating book for women. Steve Harvey, the author, shares his views on how men think and shares knowledge and dating strategies to help women secure a man, a happy relationship, and a wedding ring. Contents.
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1-Page Summary 1-Page Book Summary of Act Like A Lady Think Like A Man. In Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man, comedian-turned-relationship guru Steve Harvey offers advice to every woman—whether single, dating, or married—who wants to attract and keep a man.He believes that many women struggle to form long-term relationships because they misunderstand men.
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Parents say ( 2 ): Kids say ( 12 ): Think Like a Man is basically a two-hour commercial for Harvey's book, and he's mentioned constantly; that caveat in mind, the movie's plot is formulaic but still quite funny. (Viewers may laugh even as they roll their eyes at themselves for laughing.) Much of the humor is courtesy of Hart, who, as the group ...
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Think Like a Man. Based on Steve Harvey's best-selling book, Think Like a Man follows four interconnected and diverse men whose love lives are shaken up after the ladies they are pursuing buy Harvey's book and start taking his advice to heart. When the band of brothers realize they have been betrayed by one of their own, they conspire using the ...
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Based on actor Steve Harvey's book Think Like a Man, Act Like a Woman, Tim Story's Think Like a Man opens with a series of animated vignettes charting timeless courting rituals from prehistoric times to the present, communicating in obvious fashion that romantic relationships between men and women have been, and always will be, a form of warfare.
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THINK LIKE A MAN Like this year's What To Expect When You're Expecting (which I haven't seen and thus can't say if it's good or bad), Think Like A Man is a fictional film based on a non-fiction book. In this case, it's actor/comedian/game-show host Steve Harvey's romance advice guide Act Like A Lady, Think Like A Man.For whatever reason the folks behind Think Like A Man opted to use the second ...
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His first book Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man: What Men Really Think About Love, Relationships, Intimacy, and Commitment, was released on January 27, 2009. ... 2010. Receiving rave reviews, The Steve Harvey Project, an hour-long show that aired nightly, captured the fast-paced morning show each day with new and beloved comedy skits ...
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