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How to Prevent Bullying
Parents, school staff, and other caring adults have a role to play in preventing bullying. They can:
- Help kids understand bullying. Talk about what bullying is and how to stand up to it safely. Tell kids bullying is unacceptable. Make sure kids know how to get help.
- Keep the lines of communication open . Check in with kids often. Listen to them. Know their friends, ask about school, and understand their concerns.
- Encourage kids to do what they love. Special activities, interests, and hobbies can boost confidence, help kids make friends, and protect them from bullying behavior.
- Model how to treat others with kindness and respect.
Help Kids Understand Bullying
Kids who know what bullying is can better identify it. They can talk about bullying if it happens to them or others. Kids need to know ways to safely stand up to bullying and how to get help.
- Encourage kids to speak to a trusted adult if they are bullied or see others being bullied. The adult can give comfort, support, and advice, even if they can’t solve the problem directly. Encourage the child to report bullying if it happens.
- Talk about how to stand up to kids who bully . Give tips, like using humor and saying “stop” directly and confidently. Talk about what to do if those actions don’t work, like walking away
- Talk about strategies for staying safe, such as staying near adults or groups of other kids.
- Urge them to help kids who are bullied by showing kindness or getting help.
- Watch the short webisodes and discuss them - PDF with kids.
Keep the Lines of Communication Open
Research tells us that children really do look to parents and caregivers for advice and help on tough decisions. Sometimes spending 15 minutes a day talking can reassure kids that they can talk to their parents if they have a problem. Start conversations about daily life and feelings with questions like these:
- What was one good thing that happened today? Any bad things?
- What is lunch time like at your school? Who do you sit with? What do you talk about?
- What is it like to ride the school bus?
- What are you good at? What would do you like best about yourself?
Talking about bullyin g directly is an important step in understanding how the issue might be affecting kids. There are no right or wrong answers to these questions, but it is important to encourage kids to answer them honestly. Assure kids that they are not alone in addressing any problems that arise. Start conversations about bullying with questions like these:
- What does “bullying” mean to you?
- Describe what kids who bully are like. Why do you think people bully?
- Who are the adults you trust most when it comes to things like bullying?
- Have you ever felt scared to go to school because you were afraid of bullying? What ways have you tried to change it?
- What do you think parents can do to help stop bullying?
- Have you or your friends left other kids out on purpose? Do you think that was bullying? Why or why not?
- What do you usually do when you see bullying going on?
- Do you ever see kids at your school being bullied by other kids? How does it make you feel?
- Have you ever tried to help someone who is being bullied? What happened? What would you do if it happens again?
Get more ideas for talking with children - PDF about life and about bullying. If concerns come up, be sure to respond .
There are simple ways that parents and caregivers can keep up-to-date with kids’ lives.
- Read class newsletters and school flyers. Talk about them at home.
- Check the school website
- Go to school events
- Greet the bus driver
- Meet teachers and counselors at “Back to School” night or reach out by email
- Share phone numbers with other kids’ parents
Teachers and school staff also have a role to play.
Encourage Kids to Do What They Love
Help kids take part in activities, interests, and hobbies they like. Kids can volunteer, play sports, sing in a chorus, or join a youth group or school club. These activities give kids a chance to have fun and meet others with the same interests. They can build confidence and friendships that help protect kids from bullying.
Model How to Treat Others with Kindness and Respect
Kids learn from adults’ actions. By treating others with kindness and respect, adults show the kids in their lives that there is no place for bullying. Even if it seems like they are not paying attention, kids are watching how adults manage stress and conflict, as well as how they treat their friends, colleagues, and families.
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How to Stop Bullying in Schools
Bullying is a problem that can derail a child’s schooling, social life, and emotional well-being. A report issued by the Bureau of Justice Statistics states that bullying occurs on a daily or weekly basis in 23 percent of public schools across the United States. The issue has gained more attention in recent years because of technology and new ways to communicate and harass one other, such as the internet, cell phones, and social media. Adults may have a tendency to ignore bullying and write it off as a normal part of life that all kids go through. But bullying is a real problem with serious consequences.
Everyone wants to believe that “sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me,” but for some children and teens (and adults), that’s not true. Words can be just as harmful, or even more so, than physical abuse.
Bullying is a behavior that includes a whole range of actions that cause physical or emotional pain, from spreading rumors, to intentional exclusion, to physical abuse. It can be subtle and many children don’t tell their parents or teachers about it out of fear of shame or retribution. Children may also fear they won’t be taken seriously if they report being bullied. It’s important that parents, teachers, and other adults constantly look for bullying behaviors.
Some warning signs that your child is being bullied include:
- unexplained cuts or bruises
- damaged or missing clothing, books, school supplies, or other belongings
- loss of appetite
- trouble sleeping
- emotionally reticent
- taking unnecessarily long routes to school
- sudden poor performance or loss of interest in school work
- no longer wanting to hang out with friends
- asking to stay home sick because of frequent complaints of headaches, stomachaches, or other ailments
- social anxiety or low self-esteem
- feeling moody or depressed
- any unexplained change in behavior
Why it’s a problem
Bullying has a negative effect on everyone, including:
- the people who witness it
- anyone else connected to it
According to the U.S. Department of Health and Human Service’s site Stopbullying.gov , being bullied can lead to negative health and emotional issues, including:
- depression and anxiety
- changes in sleep and eating
- loss of interest in activities once enjoyed
- health issues
- decrease in academic achievement and school participation
Bullying prevention strategies
Engage your child.
The first thing to do if you notice that something’s wrong with your child is to talk to them. The most important thing you can do for a bullied child is to validate the situation. Pay attention to your child’s feelings and let them know that you care. You may not be able to solve all their problems but it’s essential that they know they can count on you for support.
Be a role model
Bullying is a learned behavior. Children pick up antisocial behaviors like bullying from adult role models, parents, teachers, and the media. Be a positive role model and teach your child good social behavior from an early age. Your child is less likely to enter damaging or hurtful relationships if you as their parent avoid negative associations.
Continual training and education is essential to stop bullying in your community. This gives teachers time to talk openly with students about bullying and to get a feel for what the bullying climate is at school. It will also help children understand what behaviors are considered bullying. School-wide assemblies on the subject can bring the issue out into the open.
It’s also important to educate school staff and other adults. They should understand the nature of bullying and its effects, how to respond to bullying at school, and how to work with others in the community to prevent it.
Build a community of support
Bullying is a community issue and requires a community solution. Everybody has to be on board to successfully stamp it out. This includes:
- bus drivers
- cafeteria workers
- school nurses
- after-school instructors
If your child is being bullied, it’s important you don’t confront the bully or the bully’s parent yourself. It usually isn’t productive and can even be dangerous. Instead, work with your community. Teachers, counselors, and administrators have information and resources to help determine the appropriate course of action. Develop a community strategy to address bullying.
It’s important to have a plan for how to deal with bullying. Written policies are a good way to have something that everyone in the community can reference. Every child should be treated and dealt with equally and consistently, according to the policies. Emotional bullying should be addressed in the same way as physical bullying.
Written school policies should not only prohibit bullying behavior, but also make students responsible for assisting others who are in trouble. Policies should be clear and concise so that everyone can understand them at a glance.
It’s important that rules for bullying are enforced consistently throughout the school. School staff need to be able to intervene immediately to stop bullying, and there should also be follow-up meetings for both the bully and the target. Parents of affected students should be involved when possible.
Often, bystanders feel powerless to help. They may think that getting involved may bring the bully’s attacks onto themselves or make them social outcasts. But it’s essential to empower bystanders to help. Schools should work to protect bystanders from retaliation and help them understand that silence and inaction can make bullies more powerful.
Work with the bully
Don’t forget that the bully has issues to deal with as well and also needs help from adults. Bullies often engage in bullying behaviors out of a lack of empathy and trust, or as a result of issues at home.
Bullies first need to recognize that their behavior is bullying. Then, they need to understand that bullying is harmful to others and leads to negative consequences. You can nip bullying behavior in the bud by showing them what the consequences of their actions are.
Bullying is a common issue when growing up, but it’s an issue that shouldn’t be brushed away. Solving it takes action from members of the entire community and addressing the issue head-on will bring it out into the open. Support must be given to those who are bullied, those who witness bullying, and the bullies themselves.
Last medically reviewed on June 21, 2016
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- What is bullying. (n.d.) stopbullying.gov/prevention/talking-about-it/index.html
- Bullying: How and why we should prevent it. (n.d.) cfchildren.org/bullying-prevention/related-articles.aspx
- Bullying in brief. (n.d.) kenrigby.net/Bullying-in-brief
- Meaner than fiction: Reality TV high on aggression, study shows. (2010, May 20) news.byu.edu/archive10-may-realitytv.aspx
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- Student insights into bullying and peer mistreatment. (2013, December) youthvoiceproject.com/yvpbriefsummaryDec2013.pdf
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10 Ways to Help Your Child Overcome Bullying
Sherri Gordon, CLC is a published author, certified professional life coach, and bullying prevention expert. She's also the former editor of Columbus Parent and has countless years of experience writing and researching health and social issues.
Ann-Louise T. Lockhart, PsyD, ABPP, is a board-certified pediatric psychologist, parent coach, author, speaker, and owner of A New Day Pediatric Psychology, PLLC.
There’s nothing worse than discovering your tween or teen has been targeted by a bully. As a parent, you may experience an entire range of emotions including anger, fear, pain, confusion and maybe even embarrassment. But regardless of what you are feeling, overcoming bullying requires immediate action on your part.
Bullying is not something that goes away on its own and it’s not something kids can just “work out.” Even if you are not sure if your child is being bullied, your participation in the situation is crucial to a positive outcome.
Here are 10 steps you can take to help your child overcome bullying.
Create an Environment Where Your Tween or Teen Feels Safe Talking to You
Make sure your teen or tween feels comfortable sharing with you. Avoid having an emotional reaction and don’t shame your child for being bullied. Instead, ask questions in a calm manner gathering as many details as you can. Applaud your tween or teen’s courage in telling you about the incident. This not only encourages future disclosures but also helps build a stronger relationship between the two of you.
Make a Commitment to Help Resolve the Issue
It’s always a good idea to ask for your child’s opinion before you go straight to teachers or administrators. Sometimes a tween or teen will be afraid of retaliation and you need to be sensitive to this concern when addressing the issue. If there is a fear of retaliation, you will need to be discreet in talking with school authorities and be sure they will do the same. Make sure they will not put your child at risk by calling both kids into the office at the same time or asking them to sit down with the guidance counselor together.
Discuss the Bullying Incidents in Detail With School Personnel
Be sure to bring notes about when and where the bullying took place. The more concrete documentation you can provide, the better. Also, ask them to share the school’s bullying policy and stress that you want to partner with the school to see that the issue is resolved.
Emphasize That Your Goal Is to See That Your Child Feels Safe at School
Ask the principal and guidance counselor about how this will be accomplished. For example, what other adults, like duty aids, physical education teachers, bus drivers, hallway monitors, and cafeteria staff, will be notified to be on alert? Can your child have a new class schedule or a new locker assignment? In other words, what steps can the school take to ensure your child’s safety? It’s very hard for a child to heal if the school environment feels threatening or hostile. Even if the bullying has stopped, being around the bully may still cause your tween or teen anxiety.
Consider Outside Counseling
Bullying can affect your child in a number of ways and regaining self-confidence is a process that may require outside intervention. A counselor also can assess your tween or teen for depression and thoughts of suicide.
If you are having suicidal thoughts, contact the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 988 for support and assistance from a trained counselor. If you or a loved one are in immediate danger, call 911.
Even if you suspect your child is fine, never underestimate the power of bullying. Kids have taken drastic measures to escape the pain it causes including committing suicide without ever admitting the hurt they were feeling.
Encourage Your Tween or Teen to Stick With a Friend at School
Having a friend at lunch, in the hallways, while riding the bus and during the walk home is always a good idea. Bullies are more likely to target kids when they are alone. If finding a friend is an issue, consider driving your child to and from school and ask the school if they have a mentor or someone who can be available to your child.
Teach Your Tween or Teen Skills for Overcoming the Negative Impact of Bullying
One way to do this is to emphasize your child’s strengths, skills, talents, and positive attributes. Then, help your child find activities and events that help build on those strengths. Some parents have found that Tae Kwon Do or a self-defense class helps kids develop self-confidence.
Keep the Lines of Communication Open With Your Child
Be deliberate in asking about your tween or teen’s day and acknowledge any negative feelings or emotions. Watch for signs that your child is being bullied again — either by the same person or a new person. For non-bullying incidents, you also may want to brainstorm strategies for dealing with difficult peer situations. If your child is getting outside counseling, the counselor can give you additional strategies on actively listening and communicating with your child as well.
Foster Opportunities for Socializing With Friends Outside of School
Encourage your tween or teen to invite friends over, to the movies or other fun activity. By doing so, you are helping your child develop a strong support system. If your child needs help finding friends look for opportunities within your child’s circle of interests. Keep in mind kids who have friends are less likely to be targeted by bullies. And if they are targeted, having friends helps ease the negative effects.
Follow up With the School to Ensure That the Bullying Has Been Resolved
If the bullying hasn’t been resolved, or if the school is not taking the situation seriously, you may want to consider removing your child from the situation. Is the bullying serious enough that you can involve law enforcement? Can your tween or teen attend another school? Are there options for online learning programs that are done at home? It’s important that your tween or teen feels like they have options. Feeling like there are no options or that the bullying must be tolerated, leads to feelings of hopeless, depression and even suicide.
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How to Handle Bullying at School
Here’s what parents and teachers can do to stop bullying.
Bullying is behavior that hurts or harms someone else, and it can be physical, emotional or psychological. (Getty Images)
As children return to their classrooms this fall, experts say parents and educators should look for signs of bullying at school, an age-old problem that often emerges in new and different forms every year.
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"It appears that bullying went down during the pandemic," Dorothy L. Espelage, a professor at the University of North Carolina—Chapel Hill and an expert in bullying prevention, wrote in an email. "But it will likely increase or be back to our pre-COVID rates."
Bullying, or at least reported cases, likely decreased when schools were closed by the coronavirus pandemic, taking students out of close proximity and into a virtual learning environment. But many experts say a return to school will almost certainly change that trend. Some fear that face masks and other COVID-19 protection measures could become a source of bullying.
What Is Bullying?
At its most basic level, bullying is behavior that hurts or harms another person. It can be physical, emotional or psychological. It can occur between friends or within groups, either in-person or online. Bullying can be overt and direct, with physical behavior such as fighting, hitting or name-calling, or it can be covert, with social interactions such as gossip or exclusion.
Roughly 1 in 5 children ages 12 to 18 are bullied in U.S. schools, according to data released in 2019 by the National Center for Education Statistics . Bullying is more prevalent in middle school than in high school, with almost 1 in 3 students reporting incidents in sixth grade. Overall, girls are more likely to report bullying, with almost 24% doing so, compared with about 17% of boys.
Experts say there are many effective ways to handle bullying at school, so long as parents, teachers and administrators work together to create a safe and inclusive environment and confront problems when they arise.
"Preventing bullying is first and foremost an adult responsibility," Ellen Walser deLara, author of Bullying Scars: The Impact on Adult Life and Relationships , wrote in an email.
Diagnose the Problem
To handle bullying at school, adults must first be attuned to the symptoms. A change in a child's behavior or mood is often a sign, according to Bailey Huston, coordinator of PACER's National Bullying Prevention Center. One example might be "a usually happy child who loves getting on the bus each morning suddenly demanding that their parents give them a ride to school," she wrote in an email.
Other potential indicators may include avoiding school; a decline in academic performance or grades; an inability to concentrate; unexplained headaches and stomachaches; sleeping problems; or increased anxiety, isolation or aggression, Huston says.
"Parents need to pay attention to bullying as a possible cause if their children's behavior changes from a positive place among their friends to an avoidant, sad, angry or anxious demeanor," Joel Haber, a psychologist and author who is an expert on bullying prevention, wrote in an email.
Parents can ask open-ended questions to help their children discuss a bullying situation. Start with questions that address the child's environment, Huston says. For example, "How was your bus ride today?" or, "Have you ever seen anyone being mean to someone on the bus?" Then move to questions that directly affect the child, such as, "Are you ever scared to get on the bus?" or, "Has anyone ever been mean to you on the bus?"
Take the Lead at School
Experts say that parents can and should take the lead in asserting that bullying behavior is not acceptable at school. They should communicate with other parents, share information and talk to teachers and administrators when they learn about problems.
According to experts, parents are well within their rights to ask that the school take measures to address bullying and provide a safe environment. Many schools are proactive and may already have a policy in place.
"Schools that create a culture of inclusion, train staff about bullying and follow clear protocols rewarding efforts to create a community for all faculty and students have better outcomes against bullying and greater safety," Haber says. "Schools that ignore bullying in their student body and faculty and don't take steps to protect the community allow those who bully a place to use their power to marginalize others. They create a culture where those toward the bottom of the social ladder are victimized."
Create an Intervention Plan
Experts say that parents should not teach children to fight back with aggression, nor expect them to figure out how to handle bullying at school on their own. Instead, parents should work with their child and create a plan together to address both the immediate problem and long-term solutions.
Children should know that they can walk away or avoid bullying situations, and that they can and should talk to an adult – a teacher, parent or anyone else – as soon as possible. There should be no negative connotation or consequences associated with sharing information about a bullying incident.
Make sure the plan incorporates the child's strengths and abilities, in order to help build self-confidence and resilience. The agreed-upon strategies should then be shared with others involved in the child's life, such as teachers, administrators, coaches, aftercare professionals and any other adults who interact with the child regularly.
It is important to remember that the student who is bullying others has often been bullied themselves, notes Maria Blaeuer, director of programs and outreach at the nonprofit Advocates for Justice and Education. Any intervention around bullying should therefore involve teaching new skills and strategies to both the bully and the victim.
Encourage Peer Support
Peer support can also be a crucial piece of handling bullying at school.
"Students are powerful in bullying situations, as they often know about bullying long before adults are aware of it," Huston says. "Students telling a peer to stop bullying has much more impact than adults giving that same advice."
It's important that students know they have options when responding to bullying on behalf of a peer, and that they can pick those that feel safe for them in different situations. They can directly intervene by discouraging the person bullying, defending the target or redirecting the situation away from bullying. Other options include reporting the bullying to adults or rallying support from peers to stop the bullying.
Model Proper Behavior
Parents can also help prevent bullying by modeling proper behavior in their own power dynamics at home.
"Parents who utilize and teach empathy and compassion through their own behavior, and do not abuse others who are less powerful, are the best teachers of anti-bullying behavior," Haber says.
That same idea applies in schools, where dozens – sometimes hundreds – of professionals are often working together in close quarters. How those adults interact can have an impact on how children relate to one another.
"Teachers in school have the same opportunity to teach compassion and empathy and role-model behavior," Haber says.
Learn More About Bullying and Prevention
While it is a common occurrence, experts say that bullying can have serious consequences.
"Bullying can have lifelong effects," Haber says. "The lack of safety, connectedness, and isolation that can emerge can be life-altering."
For parents, teachers, administrators and others who want to learn more about bullying and prevention, there are many resources available:
- PACER's National Bullying Prevention Center is filled with activities that can be conducted at school, materials that can be used in a classroom setting, information on National Bullying Prevention Month in October and other resources.
- The American Society for Positive Care of Children has a downloadable resource kit.
- Stopbullying.gov contains information from the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services.
- The National Association of School Psychologists maintains a bullying prevention page for families and educators.
- The Children's Safety Network maintains a page with information on bullying, detailed statistics and resources such as guides, webinars, infographics and publications dedicated to prevention.
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We brought together UNICEF specialists, international cyberbullying and child protection experts, and teamed up with Facebook, Instagram, Snapchat, TikTok and Twitter to answer some of the most common questions about online bullying and give advice on ways to deal with it.
What is cyberbullying?
Cyberbullying is bullying with the use of digital technologies. It can take place on social media, messaging platforms, gaming platforms and mobile phones. It is repeated behaviour, aimed at scaring, angering or shaming those who are targeted. Examples include:
- spreading lies about or posting embarrassing photos or videos of someone on social media
- sending hurtful, abusive or threatening messages, images or videos via messaging platforms
- impersonating someone and sending mean messages to others on their behalf or through fake accounts.
Face-to-face bullying and cyberbullying can often happen alongside each other. But cyberbullying leaves a digital footprint – a record that can prove useful and provide evidence to help stop the abuse.
If you are worried about your safety or something that has happened to you online, you can seek help by calling your national helpline . If your country does not have a helpline, please urgently speak to an adult you trust or seek professional support from trained and experienced carers.
The top questions on cyberbullying
- Am I being bullied online? How do you tell the difference between a joke and bullying?
- What are the effects of cyberbullying?
- How can cyberbullying affect my mental health?
- Who should I talk to if someone is bullying me online? Why is reporting important?
- I’m experiencing cyberbullying, but I’m afraid to talk to my parents about it. How can I approach them?
- How can I help my friends report a case of cyberbullying especially if they don’t want to do it?
- How do we stop cyberbullying without giving up access to the internet?
- How do I prevent my personal information from being used to manipulate or humiliate me on social media?
- Is there a punishment for cyberbullying?
- Technology companies don’t seem to care about online bullying and harassment. Are they being held responsible?
- Are there any online anti-bullying tools for children or young people?
1. Am I being bullied online? How do you tell the difference between a joke and bullying?
All friends joke around with each other, but sometimes it’s hard to tell if someone is just having fun or trying to hurt you, especially online. Sometimes they’ll laugh it off with a “just kidding,” or “don’t take it so seriously.”
But if you feel hurt or think others are laughing at you instead of with you, then the joke has gone too far. If it continues even after you’ve asked the person to stop and you are still feeling upset about it, then this could be bullying.
And when the bullying takes place online, it can result in unwanted attention from a wide range of people including strangers. Wherever it may happen, if you are not happy about it, you should not have to stand for it.
Call it what you will – if you feel bad and it doesn’t stop, then it’s worth getting help. Stopping cyberbullying is not just about calling out bullies, it’s also about recognizing that everyone deserves respect – online and in real life.
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2. What are the effects of cyberbullying?
When bullying happens online it can feel as if you’re being attacked everywhere, even inside your own home. It can seem like there’s no escape. The effects can last a long time and affect a person in many ways:
- Mentally – feeling upset, embarrassed, stupid, even afraid or angry
- Emotionally – feeling ashamed or losing interest in the things you love
- Physically – tired (loss of sleep), or experiencing symptoms like stomach aches and headaches
The feeling of being laughed at or harassed by others, can prevent people from speaking up or trying to deal with the problem. In extreme cases, cyberbullying can even lead to people taking their own lives.
Cyberbullying can affect us in many ways. But these can be overcome and people can regain their confidence and health.
3. How can cyberbullying affect my mental health?
When you experience cyberbullying you might start to feel ashamed, nervous, anxious and insecure about what people say or think about you. This can lead to withdrawing from friends and family, negative thoughts and self-talk, feeling guilty about things you did or did not do, or feeling that you are being judged negatively. Feeling lonely, overwhelmed, frequent headaches, nausea or stomachaches are also common.
You can lose your motivation to do the things that you usually enjoy doing and feel isolated from the people you love and trust. This can perpetuate negative feelings and thoughts which can adversely affect your mental health and well-being.
Skipping school is another common effect of cyberbullying and can affect the mental health of young people who turn to substances like alcohol and drugs or violent behaviour to deal with their psychological and physical pain. Talking to a friend, family member or school counsellor you trust can be a first step to getting help.
The effects of cyberbullying on mental health can vary depending on the medium through which it happens. For example, bullying via text messaging or through pictures or videos on social media platforms has proven to be very harmful for adolescents.
Cyberbullying opens the door to 24-hour harassment and can be very damaging. That’s why we offer in-app mental health and well-being support through our feature “ Here For You .” This Snapchat portal provides resources on mental health, grief, bullying, harassment, anxiety, eating disorders, depression, stress, and suicidal thoughts. It was developed in partnership with leading international advocacy and mental health organizations to help Snapchatters contend with some very real issues.
At Snap, nothing is more important than the safety and well-being of our community. Reach out and tell us how we might be able to help.
Cyberbullying has the potential of having a negative impact on people's mental health. It's why it's so important that you reach out to someone you trust – whether it's a parent, teacher, friend or caregiver – and let them know what you're going through so that they can help you.
The well-being of our community matters hugely to us, and we recognise that cyberbullying can have an adverse impact on people's mental health. As well as taking strong action against content or behaviour that seeks to shame, bully or harass members of our community, we have partnered with experts to develop our well-being guide to help people learn more about improving their well-being, and keep TikTok a safe and inclusive home for our community.
4. Who should I talk to if someone is bullying me online? Why is reporting important?
If you think you’re being bullied, the first step is to seek help from someone you trust such as your parents, a close family member or another trusted adult.
In your school you can reach out to a counsellor, the sports coach or your favourite teacher – either online or in person.
And if you are not comfortable talking to someone you know, search for a helpline in your country to talk to a professional counsellor.
If the bullying is happening on a social platform, consider blocking the bully and formally reporting their behaviour on the platform itself. Social media companies are obligated to keep their users safe.
For bullying to stop, it needs to be identified and reporting it is key.
It can be helpful to collect evidence – text messages and screen shots of social media posts – to show what’s been going on.
For bullying to stop, it needs to be identified and reporting it is key. It can also help to show the bully that their behaviour is unacceptable.
If you are in immediate danger, then you should contact the police or emergency services in your country.
There is no place for bullying and harassment of any kind on Facebook or Instagram. It is against our policies to create an account, post photos, or make comments for the purpose of bullying or harassing someone else.
If you are experiencing bullying online, we encourage you to talk to a parent, teacher or someone else you can trust – you have a right to be safe and supported.
We also make it easy to report bullying directly within Facebook or Instagram. You can send our team a report from a post, comment, story or direct message. Your report is anonymous; the account you reported won’t see who reported them. We have a team who reviews these reports 24/7 around the world in 70+ languages and we will remove anything that violates our policies.
Meta’s Family Center offers resources, insights and expert guidance to help parents, guardians and trusted adults support their teen’s online experiences across our technologies. For Facebook, we have resources that can help you deal with bullying – or understand what to do if you see someone else being bullied. For Instagram, you can learn more about our safety and anti-bullying features on our website.
Bullying is something no one should have to experience, either in person or online. If you are being bullied, our foundational piece of guidance is to talk to someone: a friend, parent, caregiver, trusted adult – anyone whom you trust to listen.
Snapchat’s Community Guidelines clearly and explicitly prohibit bullying, intimidation, and harassment of any kind. We don’t want it on the platform; it’s not in keeping with why Snapchat was created and designed. Learn more here .
Letting us know when you experience or witness someone breaking our rules allows us to take action, which helps to protect you and other members of our community. In addition to reporting violating content or behaviour to Snapchat, speak with a friend, parent, caregiver, or other trusted adult. Our goal is for everyone to stay safe and have fun!
Everyone has the right to feel safe and to be treated with respect and dignity. Bullying and harassment are incompatible with the inclusive environment we aim to foster on TikTok.
If you ever feel someone is bullying you or otherwise being inappropriate, reach out to someone you trust - for example, a parent, a teacher or a caregiver – who can provide support.
We deploy both technology and thousands of safety professionals to help keep bullying off TikTok. We also encourage our community members to make use of the easy in-app reporting tools to alert us if they or someone they know has experienced bullying. You can report videos, comments, accounts and direct messages so that we can take appropriate action and help keep you safe. Reports are always confidential.
You can find out more in our Bullying Prevention guide for teens, caregivers, and educators on how to identify and prevent bullying, and provide support.
Being the target of bullying online is not easy to deal with. If you are being cyberbullied, the most important thing to do is to ensure you are safe. It’s essential to have someone to talk to about what you are going through. This may be a teacher, another trusted adult, or a parent. Talk to your parents and friends about what to do if you or a friend are being cyberbullied.
We encourage people to report accounts to us that may break our rules . You can do this on our Help Center or through the in-Tweet reporting mechanism by clicking on the “Report a Tweet” option.
Last updated: January 2022.
5. I’m experiencing cyberbullying, but I’m afraid to talk to my parents about it. How can I approach them?
If you are experiencing cyberbullying, speaking to a trusted adult – someone you feel safe talking to – is one of the most important first steps you can take.
Talking to parents isn’t easy for everyone. But there are things you can do to help the conversation. Choose a time to talk when you know you have their full attention. Explain how serious the problem is for you. Remember, they might not be as familiar with technology as you are, so you might need to help them to understand what’s happening.
They might not have instant answers for you, but they are likely to want to help and together you can find a solution. Two heads are always better than one! If you are still unsure about what to do, consider reaching out to other trusted people . There are often more people who care about you and are willing to help than you might think!
6. How can I help my friends report a case of cyberbullying especially if they don’t want to do it?
Anyone can become a victim of cyberbullying. If you see this happening to someone you know, try to offer support.
It is important to listen to your friend. Why don’t they want to report being cyberbullied? How are they feeling? Let them know that they don’t have to formally report anything, but it’s crucial to talk to someone who might be able to help.
Anyone can become a victim of cyberbullying.
Remember, your friend may be feeling fragile. Be kind to them. Help them think through what they might say and to whom. Offer to go with them if they decide to report. Most importantly, remind them that you’re there for them and you want to help.
If your friend still does not want to report the incident, then support them in finding a trusted adult who can help them deal with the situation. Remember that in certain situations the consequences of cyberbullying can be life threatening.
Doing nothing can leave the person feeling that everyone is against them or that nobody cares. Your words can make a difference.
We know that it can be hard to report bullying, but everyone deserves to feel safe online. If your friend is experiencing cyberbullying, encourage them to talk to a parent, a teacher or an adult they trust.
Reporting content or accounts to Facebook or Instagram is anonymous and can help us better keep our platforms safe. Bullying and harassment are highly personal by nature, so in many instances, we need a person to report this behaviour to us before we can identify or remove it. You can report something you experience yourself, but it’s also just as easy to submit a report for one of your friends. You can find more information on how to report something on Instagram’s Help Center and on Facebook’s Help Center .
You and your friends may be reluctant to report to a technology platform for any number of reasons, but it’s important to know that reporting on Snapchat is confidential and easy. And remember: You can report Snaps (photos and videos), Chats (messages) and accounts – about your own experiences or on behalf of someone else.
In the more public places of Snapchat, like Discover and Spotlight, simply press and hold on the piece of content and a card with “Report Tile” (as one option) will appear in red. Click that link and our reporting menu will appear. Bullying and harassment are the first categories in the reporting list. Just follow the prompts and provide as much information as you can about the incident. We appreciate you doing your part to help us protect the Snapchat community!
If you believe another member of the TikTok community is being bullied or harassed, there are ways you can provide support. For example, you can make a confidential report on TikTok so that we take appropriate action and help keep your friend safe.
If you know the person, consider checking in with them and encourage them to read our Bullying Prevention guide so they can find out more information about how to identify bullying behaviour and take action.
If your friends are experiencing cyberbullying, encourage them to talk to a parent, a teacher or an adult they trust.
If a friend of yours does not want to report their experience, you can submit a bystander report on their behalf. This can include reports of private information , non -consensual nudity or impersonation.
7. How do we stop cyberbullying without giving up access to the Internet?
Being online has so many benefits. However, like many things in life, it comes with risks that you need to protect against.
If you experience cyberbullying, you may want to delete certain apps or stay offline for a while to give yourself time to recover. But getting off the Internet is not a long-term solution. You did nothing wrong, so why should you be disadvantaged? It may even send the bullies the wrong signal — encouraging their unacceptable behaviour.
We need to be thoughtful about what we share or say that may hurt others.
We all want cyberbullying to stop, which is one of the reasons reporting cyberbullying is so important. But creating the Internet we want goes beyond calling out bullying. We need to be thoughtful about what we share or say that may hurt others. We need to be kind to one another online and in real life. It's up to all of us!
We’re continuously developing new technologies to encourage positive interactions and take action on harmful content, and launching new tools to help people have more control over their experience. Here are some examples from Instagram:
- When someone writes a caption or a comment that our artificial intelligence detects as potentially offensive or intended to harass, we will show them an alert that asks them to pause and reflect on whether they would like to edit their language before it’s posted.
- Comments with common offensive words, phrases or emojis are automatically hidden or filtered out with the ‘Hide comments’ setting, which is defaulted on for all people. If you want an even more personalized experience, you can create a custom list of emojis, words or phrases you don’t want to see, and comments containing these terms won’t appear under your posts and messages will be sent to a filtered inbox. All of these filters can be found in your ‘Hidden Words’ settings.
- You can always block or mute an account that is bullying you, and that account will not be notified. If you don’t feel comfortable taking those actions, ‘Restrict’ is a more subtle way to protect your account from unwanted interactions. Once ‘Restrict’ is enabled, comments on your posts from a person you have restricted will only be visible to that person. You can choose to view the comment by tapping “See Comment”; approve the comment so everyone can see it; delete it; or ignore it. You won’t receive any notifications for comments from a restricted account.
Our priority is to foster a welcoming and safe environment where people feel free to express themselves authentically. Our Community Guidelines make clear that we do not tolerate members of our community being shamed, bullied or harassed.
We use a combination of technology and moderation teams to help us identify and remove abusive content or behaviour from our platform.
We also provide our community with an extensive range of tools to help them better control their experience – whether it's control over exactly who can view and interact with your content or filtering tools to help you stay in control of comments. You can find out about them on our Safety Centre .
Since hundreds of millions of people share ideas on Twitter every day, it’s no surprise that we don’t all agree with each other all the time. That’s one of the benefits of a public conversation in that we can all learn from respectful disagreements and discussions.
But sometimes, after you’ve listened to someone for a while, you may not want to hear them anymore. Their right to express themselves doesn’t mean you’re required to listen. If you see or receive a reply you don’t like, unfollow and end any communication with that account. If the behaviour continues, it is recommended that you block the account . If you continue receiving unwanted, targeted and continuous replies on Twitter, consider reporting the behaviour to Twitter here .
We are also working proactively to protect people using our service through a combination of human review and technology. Learn more about how to feel safer on Twitter here .
8. How do I prevent my personal information from being used to manipulate or humiliate me on social media?
Think twice before posting or sharing anything on digital platforms – it may be online forever and could be used to harm you later. Don’t give out personal details such as your address, telephone number or the name of your school.
Learn about the privacy settings of your favourite social media apps. Here are some actions you can take on many of them:
- You can decide who can see your profile, send you direct messages or comment on your posts by adjusting your account privacy settings.
- You can report hurtful comments, messages, photos and videos and request they be removed.
- Besides ‘unfriending’, you can completely block people to stop them from seeing your profile or contacting you.
- You can also choose to have comments by certain people to appear only to them without completely blocking them.
- You can delete posts on your profile or hide them from specific people.
On most of your favourite social media, people aren't notified when you block, restrict or report them.
9. Is there a punishment for cyberbullying?
Most schools take bullying seriously and will take action against it. If you are being cyberbullied by other students, report it to your school.
People who are victims of any form of violence, including bullying and cyberbullying, have a right to justice and to have the offender held accountable.
Laws against bullying, particularly on cyberbullying, are relatively new and still do not exist everywhere. This is why many countries rely on other relevant laws, such as ones against harassment, to punish cyberbullies.
In countries that have specific laws on cyberbullying, online behaviour that deliberately causes serious emotional distress is seen as criminal activity. In some of these countries, victims of cyberbullying can seek protection, prohibit communication from a specified person and restrict the use of electronic devices used by that person for cyberbullying, temporarily or permanently.
However, it is important to remember that punishment is not always the most effective way to change the behaviour of bullies. Sometimes, focusing on repairing the harm and mending the relationship can be better.
On Facebook, we have a set of Community Standards , and on Instagram, we have Community Guidelines . We take action when we are aware of content that violates these policies, like in the case of bullying or harassment, and we are constantly improving our detection tools so we can find this content faster.
Making sure people don’t see hateful or harassing content in direct messages can be challenging, given they’re private conversations, but we are taking steps to take tougher action when we become aware of people breaking our rules. If someone continues to send violating messages, we will disable their account. We’ll also disable new accounts created to get around our messaging restrictions and will continue to disable accounts we find that are created purely to send harmful messages.
On Snapchat, reports of cyberbullying are reviewed by Snap’s dedicated Trust & Safety teams, which operate around the clock and around the globe. Individuals found to be involved in cyberbullying may be given a warning, their accounts might be suspended or their accounts could be shut down completely.
We recommend leaving any group chat where bullying or any unwelcome behaviour is taking place and please report the behaviour or the account to us.
Our Community Guidelines define a set of norms and common code of conduct for TikTok and they provide guidance on what is and is not allowed to make a welcoming space for everyone. We make it clear that we do not tolerate members of our community being shamed, bullied or harassed. We take action against any such content and accounts, including removal.
We strongly enforce our rules to ensure all people can participate in the public conversation freely and safely. These rules specifically cover a number of areas including topics such as:
- Child sexual exploitation
- Hateful conduct
- Suicide or self-harm
- Sharing of sensitive media, including graphic violence and adult content
As part of these rules, we take a number of different enforcement actions when content is in violation. When we take enforcement actions, we may do so either on a specific piece of content (e.g., an individual Tweet or Direct Message) or on an account.
You can find more on our enforcement actions here .
10. Technology companies don’t seem to care about online bullying and harassment. Are they being held responsible?
Technology companies are increasingly paying attention to the issue of online bullying.
Many of them are introducing ways to address it and better protect their users with new tools, guidance and ways to report online abuse.
But it is true that more is needed. Many young people experience cyberbullying every day. Some face extreme forms of online abuse. Some have taken their own lives as a result.
Technology companies have a responsibility to protect their users especially children and young people.
It is up to all of us to hold them accountable when they’re not living up to these responsibilities.
11. Are there any online anti-bullying tools for children or young people?
Each social platform offers different tools (see available ones below) that allow you to restrict who can comment on or view your posts or who can connect automatically as a friend, and to report cases of bullying. Many of them involve simple steps to block, mute or report cyberbullying. We encourage you to explore them.
Social media companies also provide educational tools and guidance for children, parents and teachers to learn about risks and ways to stay safe online.
Also, the first line of defense against cyberbullying could be you. Think about where cyberbullying happens in your community and ways you can help – by raising your voice, calling out bullies, reaching out to trusted adults or by creating awareness of the issue. Even a simple act of kindness can go a long way.
The first line of defense against cyberbullying could be you.
If you are worried about your safety or something that has happened to you online, urgently speak to an adult you trust. Many countries have a special helpline you can call for free and talk to someone anonymously. Visit United for Global Mental Health to find help in your country.
We have a number of anti-bullying tools across Facebook and Instagram:
- You can block people, including any existing and new accounts they might create.
- You can mute an account and that account will not be notified.
- You can use ‘ Restrict ’ to discreetly protect your account without that person being notified.
- You can moderate comments on your own posts.
- You can modify your settings so that only people you follow can send you a direct message.
- We will notify someone when they’re about to post something that might cross the line, encouraging them to reconsider.
- We automatically filter out comments and message requests that don’t go against our Community Guidelines but may be considered inappropriate or offensive. You can also create your own custom list of emojis, words or phrases that you don’t want to see.
For more tips and ideas, visit Instagram’s Safety page and Facebook’s Bullying Prevention Hub . We also offer resources, insights and expert guidance for parents and guardians on our Family Center .
We want teens and young adults to be aware of the blocking and removal functions on Snapchat. Clicking on the person’s avatar will bring up a three-dot menu in the upper right-hand corner. Opening that menu offers the option of “Manage Friendship,” which, in turn, offers the ability to Report, Block or Remove the person as a friend. If you block someone, they will be told that their Snaps and Chats to you will be delivered once the relationship is restored.
It’s also a good idea to check privacy settings to ensure they continue to be set to the default setting of “Friends Only.” This way, only people you’ve added as Friends can send you Snaps and Chats.
We also recommend reviewing your Friends’ list from time to time to ensure it includes those people you still want to be friends with on Snapchat.
Alongside the work that our safety teams do to help keep bullying and harassment off our platform, we provide an extensive range of tools to help you control your TikTok experience. You can find these in full on our Safety Centre . Here are a few highlights:
- You can restrict who comments on your videos to no one, just friends or everyone (for those aged under 16, the everyone setting is not available)
- You can filter all comments or those with specific keywords that you choose. By default, spam and offensive comments are hidden from users when we detect them.
- You can delete or report multiple comments at once, and you can block accounts that post bullying or other negative comments in bulk too, up to 100 at a time.
- A comment prompt asks people to reconsider posting a comment that may be inappropriate or unkind, reminding them of our Community Guidelines and allowing them to edit their comments before sharing.
We want everybody to be safe on Twitter. We continue to launch and improve tools for people to feel safer, be in control and manage their digital footprint. Here are some safety tools anyone on Twitter can use:
- Select who can reply to your Tweets – either everyone, only people you follow or only people you mention
- Mute – removing an account's Tweets from your timeline without unfollowing or blocking that account
- Block – restricting specific accounts from contacting you, seeing your Tweets, and following you
- Report – filing a report about abusive behaviour
- Safety mode – a feature that temporarily blocks accounts for using potentially harmful language or sending repetitive and uninvited replies or mentions.
With special thanks to: Meta, Snap, TikTok and Twitter. Last updated: February 2023.
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Bullying: A big problem with big consequences
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- Bullying: a big problem with big consequences
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Bullying is a particular problem with adolescents and pre-adolescents. Unfortunately, bullies can cause lasting psychological and physical damage to other kids. Because youth typically do not bully others in front of adults, teachers and parents are often unaware of bullying. As a result, they rarely step in to stop bullies or to help children cope with being bullied.
What is bullying?
Bullying occurs among teens when one or more of them uses physical, emotional, or verbal abuse to make life miserable for another. Bullying is not normal childhood behavior and should not be dismissed as "kids will be kids."
Lost or torn clothing.
Fearfulness or anxiety.
A drop in grades.
Lack of friends.
Loss of appetite.
Unexplained reluctance to go to school.
Asking for extra school supplies or extra lunch money.
Research has found that males were both more likely than females to bully or to be victims of bullying. Physical bullying is the most common for males — being hit, slapped, or push. Females were more likely to report verbal and psychological bullying, including sexual harassment and rumor mongering.
A significant bullying problem involves controlling or manipulating others by damaging or threatening to damage valued relationships. Teen girl bullies do this by intentionally spreading rumors about another person. They also use body language or nonverbal actions to exclude others.
This type of bullying is much harder for parents to get a handle on because it's sneaky, quiet, or underhanded. It's harder to see and explain, and involves one person's word against another.
Some experts suggest that changing the attitudes and involvement of bystanders could have the biggest impact on bullies. Bystanders are kids who witness but are not victims of bullying. Since bullies love an audience, a bystander's encouragement or toleration of the bully will make the bully stronger. Training through role-playing can help youth recognize a potentially harmful situation and do something positive. By simply saying, "That's not cool," a bystander can stop a bully's activities.
Youth need to know that taking a stand for what is right can be very effective. Strive to turn your teen into a catalyst for change. Explain the difference between tattling and telling. Tattling is when you report something just to get someone in trouble. Telling is when you report that you or someone else is in danger.
What you can do if your teen is the victim of a bully
Typically, assertive, self-confident children do not become victims of bullying. Surprisingly, youth who are overweight, wear glasses, or are smart are no more likely to be bullied than others. Youth usually are singled out because of psychological traits, such as extreme passivity, sensitivity to criticism, or low self-esteem. Here are some actions to take if you suspect your teen is being bullied, or to help him or her avoid being bullied:
Ask questions. Ask how he or she is spending lunch break and time before and after school. Ask what it’s like riding the bus or walking to school. Ask if there are peers who are bullies without asking whether your teen is being bullied.
Listen to your teen’s reports of being bullied and take them seriously. Encourage speaking out.
Report all incidents to school authorities. Keep a written record of who was injured and how, and those you reported it to.
Teach your teen how to avoid the situations that expose him or her to bullying. Direct your teen toward experiences tailored to improve his or her social skills.
Teach your teen how to respond to aggression. With bullies, they should be assertive and leave the scene without violence. Role-play with your teen how to react and respond in non-aggressive ways.
Do not tell youth to strike back. This gives the message that the only way to fight violence is by using more violence. It also makes them feel that parents and teachers don’t care enough to help.
Avoid watching violent games, TV shows, and movies as much as possible.
What to do if your teen bullies others
Objectively evaluate your teen’s behavior; don't rush to justify it.
Teach your teen to recognize and express emotions non-violently.
Teach conflict-management and conflict-resolution skills.
Emphasize talking out the issue rather than hitting.
Promote empathy by pointing out the consequences for others of verbal and physical actions.
Don’t put down your teen. Bullies are intolerant of personal insults.
Model the behavior you want your teen to exhibit.
Adults must make it clear that aggressive behavior is not acceptable and will not be tolerated. When aggression is tolerated, everyone loses — the bullies, the victims, and the bystanders.
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Bullying Resource Center — American Academy of Child & Adolescent Psychiatry — Get answers to frequently asked questions about bullying and access concise up-to-date information on other issues that affect children, teenagers, and their families.
Bullying Research — Centers for Disease Control and Prevention — Bullying is one type of youth violence that threatens young people's well-being. Bullying can result in physical injuries, social and emotional difficulties, and academic problems.
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Revised by Jodi Dworkin, Extension specialist and associate professor in Family Social Science.
Reviewed in 2018
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What Are the Problems & Solutions of Bullying in School?
Causes & Effects of Truancy
Bullying in schools is growing concern in the United States. Bullying causes many problems, not only for the victim, but also for the bully. Students desire a safe haven at home and school and problems with bullies lead to insecurity in the victim. Bullying should be taken seriously and teachers, administrators and parents should work together to find solutions.
Problems for Victims
Bullying can cause life-long negative psychological effects on a victim of a bully. A victim will often suffer through the abuse because he is ashamed or he doesn't believe that change will happen if he tells. He also may fear retaliation. A victim of a bully can end up fearful of others and may be unable to cope socially. A victim may become withdrawn and his school work may begin to suffer. A victim may turn around and bully someone he determines to be weaker, thus perpetuating the problem.
Problems for Bullies
A bully may also have life-long issues related to bullying. The Center for Problem Oriented Policing gives some examples for why a bully turns to picking on someone weaker such as abusive influence in the home and peer group influence. If the peers of the bully agree that someone is socially different, they may encourage the bully's behavior. According to a study by the Fight Crime Organization, nearly 60 percent of boys who researchers classified as bullies in grades six through nine were convicted of at least one crime by the age of 24. The bully may be experiencing abuse at home or have problems adjusting at school so he lashes out at someone weaker.
Schools can set up programs to educate all students from a young age about the dangers and effects of bullying. Try to stop the problem before it starts by setting up parameters for students when faced with bullying. Offer a safe environment for students to discuss problems they may have with another student. Set a policy related to bullying, such as required counseling for the bully and victim and a scale of disciplinary actions, such as required community service, depending on the severity of the case. Educate all teachers on how to deal with bullying in the classroom effectively through one-on-one interaction with the student, setting up meetings with parents of bullies and victims, or when and how to remove a violent bully from the classroom. Monitor areas where students have less supervision to prevent bullies from easy opportunities to bully. Encourage all students to report incidents of bullying, whether they are victims or witnesses.
Parents need to have a clear understanding of what constitutes bullying and the schools bullying policies so that they can recognize the signs and take all incidents of peer abuse seriously. A parent of a bully needs to take steps to work with the child by finding out why the child is bullying and determining if the child needs professional counseling. Parents can also encourage empathy by explaining to the child what empathy is and showing the child by example. Parents can encourage their child to stand up for herself and teach her effective ways of managing anger or feelings of helplessness. Constant communication, through phone calls, notes and meetings between parents and school is necessary to prevent bullying.
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6 Ways to Solve the Problem of School Bullying
- by New Theory May 26, 2020
Wondering how to stop bullying? You have come to the right place. All of us have heard the saying that “kids will be kids.” However, this can’t be a way of condoning death threats, beatings, and harassment in the form of school bullying. Many children can’t seem to get away from this, and it also leads to suicide in many cases.
Bullying is an issue that needs to be taken care of by parents, educators, and politicians on a larger level. There are various ways to control bullying, such as putting rules in places and involving your students in the solution problem, such as asking them to write a problem solution essay on bullying. The one thing that everyone asks is how to stop bullying. There are many solutions to stop bullying. You can read a few college essay examples available at free phdessay to learn more about bullying and pass that information to the students and faculty.
Let’s take a look at the few ways with which we can control bullying.
Clear define bullying
Many don’t consider what they are doing as bullying, and this is very harmful in the long run. A clear definition of bullying needs to be put in place so that all the schools in the country can abide by it.
A clear distinction between teasing and bullying needs to be made. Teasing is done in order to irritate the other person, while bullying indicates an imbalance of power between two people. This is the major key.
Bullied students are often unable to defend themselves, which creates this imbalance and results in both physical and mental bullying. Moreover, in today’s world, cyberbullying is also present in which electronic devices are used to intimidate, harass, or bully people.
Nobody wants to be seen as a victim- and this is exactly what happens when the school staff and administration place judgment on the student by naming them as a victim or as a bully, even. We don’t need to place labels and pass judgment: what we need to do is to address the problem at hand.
Look at the behaviors of students, and then address the ones you think are problematic. Never ever dismiss anything by saying that it is minute and unimportant, for you never know what the impact of that minute thing is on the student.
You need to look at both the bully and the bullied: you can’t solve the problem by talking to only one party. The student who is bullying others usually has an underlying issue and problem that is making them act this way. Look at the underlying causes of the behavior as they will help you find a way out.
Set clear rules
We often wonder how to stop bullying instead of looking at various solutions to stop bullying. Most often, we never teach our children and students in the classroom, the appropriate behavior, and when they do something wrong, we call them out.
You need to put age-appropriate rules in place to ensure that students know what the right sort of behavior is. These rules will help maintain a sense of decorum, and the students will know that they have to abide by them.
Reward good behavior
We often punish students for bad behavior but fail to reward them when they behave in a good way. It is important to reinforce good behavior through rewards and appreciation because these propagate students to repeat good behavior.
Acknowledge their positive behavior, and they will be less inclined to do bad things such as bullying.
Keep the communication channels open
It is very important to let your students and children know that they can come to you and talk about their problems. You can have classroom meetings and sessions in which students can communicate about their issues openly.
You can set aside some time for the students to come to and discuss things if they feel the need. Make sure that you listen to them and their issues, and provide a helping hand to them.
Involve the parents
Parents have the biggest impact on students’ lives. Parents often ask what we can do to stop bullying. Make sure that you communicate to know what is going on with the students. Moreover, you need to keep the parents informed about the behavior of their kids, their grades, their friends, and any other activities that they are involved in at the school.
This will help the parents to address the behavioral issues that their kids might have. Working together with them is the key here.
Bullying is something that reduces if handled properly. Use the tips mentioned above to prevent or reduce bullying at your school. You don’t have to ask what we can do to stop bullying; you have to find the solutions to stop bullying yourself.
Hopefully, we have given you some ideas on what we can do to stop bullying. It is your duty to make sure that your students are living in a safe environment where they are free to grow and learn.
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6 common team problems and how to solve them with disc.
All teams can face challenges, especially when you have diverse personality types within the same group. The good news? As a leader, there are tools available to help you identify and address the root causes behind these common team problems and thus increase the effectiveness of your team.
One such tool is the DISC assessment, an acronym for Drive , Influence , Support , and Clarity . The DISC profile gives leaders insight into the behavioral patterns, motivations and communication styles of each team member. It's a great way to understand why certain problems are happening so you can take steps to create harmony and improve performance within the team.
Today we’re looking at six common team problems and how you can solve them with DISC.
1. Poor communication
Effective communication is key to the success of any team – an astonishing number of workplace misunderstandings stem from poor communication. When team members are not speaking the same language, they end up feeling like their opinions are not valued or they don’t understand what’s expected of them.
Luckily, the DISC assessment can help. Depending on someone’s DISC style, they might feel more comfortable emailing their ideas directly to a manager rather than sharing them during a brainstorming session. Or, they might prefer to have everything written down for clarity before going into a discussion. Knowing what communication style works best for each team member can help you foster a safe and welcoming space where communication can flow easily.
Tips for success:
- When dealing with a Drive type, make sure you communicate in a straightforward manner. Drive types may lose respect for those who beat around the bush.
- Influence personalities can be a valuable asset to motivate your team and keep everyone focused on the end goal. Have them lead group discussions and brainstorming sessions to get everyone’s creative juices flowing.
- If you have a Support type in your team, consider having them as a moderator. Their listening and conflict-management skills can come in handy when dealing with diverse personalities.
- Explain your plans in detail to the Clarity types in your team. People with a Clarity style ask a lot of "why" questions, so come prepared to back up your reasons.
2. Lack of trust
There’s no team without trust. In fact, when the people on your team don’t trust each other, or you as a leader, it directly impacts the quality of their work. This lack of trust can also manifest as low motivation and create a tense workplace environment.
A general tip to overcome trust issues in the workplace is to lead by example. Your team will take cues from you and your actions, so try to be consistent in the way you behave and the values you represent.
With DISC, however, it’s possible to take trust-building a step further. Knowing the behavior and work style of each person on your team helps you craft individualized messages that speak directly to their needs. This can be especially useful when dealing with skepticism and misunderstandings, as it allows you to express your concerns in a way that is most likely to be received positively.
- Drive personalities expect you to set an example and put your money where your mouth is. Model the behavior you expect and then back away – Drive types dislike micromanagement.
- Influence personalities thrive on praise and recognition so make sure you take the time to thank them for their efforts and encourage them to open up if they are struggling.
- Show compassion and seek the counseling skills of the Support people on your team. They can be invaluable in helping you increase cooperation and mutual respect within the team.
- Clarity types need structure and clear instructions to be able to trust you, trust their peers and trust themselves. Be transparent about your intentions and explain your thought process to Clarity types.
3. Conflict avoidance
It’s easy to overlook potential issues and sweep them under the rug when everyone is getting along, but this strategy can only get you so far. When the team avoids conflict as a rule, it creates an environment where only ‘safe’ topics can be discussed and people don’t feel comfortable raising uncomfortable issues. It can also lead to resentment and passive-aggression, which can be more difficult to address in the long run.
The DISC assessment can help you identify potential sources of conflict and create strategies for addressing them before they become a problem. Nipping unproductive disagreements in the bud quickly, while leaving space to work through productive disagreements, is essential for building team cohesion in the long run.
- Drive types can often be the loudest voices in the room. Make sure you’re opening the conversation to the rest of the team and creating a space where everyone's opinions can be heard.
- Discourage gossip. Influence types tend to do this and it can create tension among other team members.
- When providing feedback to a Support type, focus on what’s going well first. This will help them feel comfortable and more open to constructive criticism.
- Clarity types will appreciate an honest and direct approach when addressing disagreements. Focus on facts over feelings and encourage the often-reticent Clarity person to voice their concerns.
4. Unclear goals
Different personality styles have different priorities and needs. For Clarity personalities, details are important, and they deliver their best work when there are clearly defined goals. Drive types tend to prioritize objectives over line items on the to-do list, while Support personalities usually do better when working on one task at a time. When it comes to Influence types, they can play a role in celebrating, and recognizing when goals are met.
Bottom line? No matter the DISC style, it’s important that everyone on your team knows what’s expected of them and to whom they can report questions.
- Explain to Drive personalities on your team what results they should be aiming for. These types are good at taking the initiative and using their time effectively, as long as they know what you want them to achieve.
- For Influence types, be sure to set very clear parameters and milestones. These types struggle to stay focused on one task for an extended period, so break larger projects into smaller goals to help them stay on course.
- Consider implementing collaborative project management software. This will allow the Support types on your team to track their progress and know what's expected of them.
- Be thorough when detailing information about an upcoming project to a Clarity type. They need clear and precise instructions to get going, so make sure you give them all the facts they need.
5. Low engagement
If you start noticing that certain members of your team are apathetic or missing deadlines, it might be time to investigate what’s happening. Do you have an Influencer who is not meeting people, building relationships or rallying people around a goal? Maybe someone is dealing with a personal issue that’s affecting their work?
Whatever it is, get to the heart of the issue. A general rule of thumb to stir up team engagement is to promote a culture of recognition so that everyone can feel valued for their work. The DISC assessment can help you uncover what each team member needs to feel recognized, valued and fulfilled.
- Drive personalities will appreciate tangible rewards such as a bonus or promotion. They also feel more valued if you are receptive to their ideas and willingly accept feedback from the Drive types on your team.
- Influence personalities will respond well to words of gratitude and praise from their peers and supervisors. Take time to engage in water cooler conversation with Influence types so you can pepper in recognition when they do something impressive.
- Support personalities need to feel they are making a contribution. Let Support types know that their work is appreciated and valued by the rest of the team.
- Clarity types need to be shown that their hard work is noticed and appreciated. Reward them with opportunities for development or additional responsibility.
According to Psychology Today , groupthink happens when “a group of well-intentioned people makes irrational or non-optimal decisions spurred by the urge to conform or the belief that dissent is impossible.” While having everyone on your team reach a mutual consensus may look ideal, the phenomenon of groupthink eliminates any chance of hearing other equally valuable viewpoints for cohesiveness’s sake.
To avoid groupthink, it is important to not rush the decision-making process and to guarantee that every perspective is heard and risks are evaluated. By using DISC assessment, you can also adapt your approach to the needs of each of your team members. Drive types expect to be included in the decision-making process, for example, while Support folks may need more time to process and make a decision.
- Explain to Drive personalities why their input is necessary and how it can benefit the team – even if the matter seems trivial to them. At the same time, look out for Drive-type dominance. Encourage the more vocal Drive personalities to listen to other opinions.
- Influence types may brainstorm a lot of underdeveloped ideas – avoid discarding them immediately as they may turn out to be useful. Be curious before being critical.
- Quieter Support personalities need to be given the right atmosphere and support to share their thoughts. Encourage them in a non-intimidating way.
- Clarity types have a keen eye for the downside. Ask them what they think are the pitfalls of the preferred choice, and what they would do to improve it.
As a leader, understanding these six common team problems and addressing them early on is crucial for running a successful team. DISC assessment is an excellent tool for recognizing and understanding the different needs of each team member, allowing you to better leverage their strengths and bring out their best work.
Andreia is an INFJ who used to think she was the only person in the world terrified of answering the phone. She works as a freelance writer covering all things mental health, and psychology related. When not writing, you’ll find her cozying up with a book, or baking vegan treats. Find her at: https://andreiaesteves.com/
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Solving the Bully Problem
Getting to the root of the bully problem.
Posted February 17, 2011
So, what in the world can we do to help the bully overcome his compulsion to bully? Well, first we have to recognize ourselves as part of the pattern the bully lives into. The bully has identified with "badness" as compensation for powerlessness. He believes that this "badness" allows him to be all that everyone else is too weak, stupid, or cowardly to engage. He stubbornly holds to the belief that he is smarter and stronger than the rest of the world--simply becaue of his identification with "badness." Because this is a mask and costume, rather than a real identification with his own authenticity , he is compelled to keep proving it to himself by gaining and regaining power over others. Of course, under all of that false bravado is a scared child who wants desperately to be protected from any harm, emotional, physical, psychological or otherwise. And really he is, in his own skewed way, trying to survive.
Feeling sorry for poor Bully yet? Don't. Feeling sorry for her pushes her fear button and to that fear she'll only react with more bullying . Unless, of course, she thinks he can use your pity to her advantage. The bully will only feed on pity to either grow her compulsion to feel strong at your expense, or her need to control you through manipulation. Ergo, you become a part of the problem.
Wishing the bully dead? Yeah, don't we all from time to time. But again, this only perpetuates the problem. The bully will feel your wish, like a dog senses your fear, and react to it as if it is an energizer. Your desire that he be punished or even killed is an unconscious reminder to him of his own shame ---which propels him to identify with it yet again by proving to you that he really is the "bad" guy you think he is. Or, if there is any need to reject shame, he'll just project it onto you, which gives him a rationale for punishing you. And again, you become part of the problem rather than the solution.
Want to confront her so that she'll see the error of herways? Forget it! She'll laugh at you. She'll just see your efforts as some kind of self-righteous stupidity. All "rightness" is a joke to the bully. She has identified with "badness" as a method of survival. She's only going to see your efforts to correct her as further affirmation of her"badness" which only makes her feel stronger and more powerful over you.
The bully actually feels like a victim of the "rightness" of others. Those parents who initially bullied him through their physical, mental and emotional abuse , were "right" and he was wrong. Those parents who allowed themselves to be bullied because that seemed the "right" thing to do, were weak and ineffective to him, so that their "rightness" was seen as stupid. And so now, when you declare how wrong he is to bully others, you might be reminding him that he was originally wrong and his parents, at whom he is often secretly or overtly enraged, were "right." Or, you might be reminding him that "rightness" is a joke that he can use against you. These are dangerous buttons to push.
Scared of the bully? Yes, we all are. We fear what the bully can do to us, mentally, emotionally, physically, financially or otherwise. But that fear is food to her. Again, like the dog who can sense your fear, she will use your fear to further perpetuate her own sense of power and control over you. That big amorphous "they" out there fears her because she is so powerful---and that's just as it should be. So, what we are doing when we fear the bully is adding fuel to an already out-of-control fire.
The above are typical responses to the bully. But none of them work. That is why the idea of rehabilitation from the jail cell is well-nigh to impossible. In fact, put in the room with several other bullies, the bully is going to have to up the ante. He'll have to become just that much more of a bully. Typically, he knows how to do that, for he's been doing it all of his life.
What is effective for some bullies, at least for those who have not yet gone all the way over into sociopathy , is the recognition that this bully thing is a mask and costume that she has worn in order to survive in her family of origin. Whether she was the bully of her parents or bullied by her parents, she is responding to her early environment with an identity that seems to work for her. In other words, there is another whole person, down under the bully mask and costume, with which she has never yet identified.
Through such recognition, bullies can begin to recognize the powerlessness they felt as children for which they've been compensating ever since with this big, bad bully identity---and they will realize that they have done little else but live out that drama over and over again. As they begin to make this connection they can also begin to hear the voice of the authentic Self, which is neither bad nor good, but simply a real person who has compassion for that inner child who was bullied or taught to bully. Through that compassionate energy, as opposed to the energy of judgment, the bully can learn to take care of herself, for she can now make choices to do, say, think and feel the things that bless and nourish her life. These choices make up the very definition of personal empowerment. And it is this personal power rather than power over others, which can actually be attained, and all that was ever really wanted.
Conscious choice--rather than unconscious compulsion--makes the empowering difference.
Andrea Mathews, LPC, NCC , is a cognitive and transpersonal therapist, internet radio show host, and the author of Letting Go of Good: Dispel the Myth of Goodness to Find Your Genuine Self.
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Bullying can take many forms, but all forms of bullying cause harm or worse. Even if there is no physical contact between a bully and their target, people who are bullied may carry the emotional damage of what they experienced for the rest of their lives. That is why it is important to put a stop to bullying. If you are being bullied, then there are things you can do to deal with the bully. If you witness bullying , then there are things you can do to stand up for someone else. You can also work to raise awareness among your peers and learn about the different ways that you can ask for help.
Things You Should Know
- Deal with a bully by walking away, reporting the bully, and asking them to stop if it’s safe. If you see someone being bullied, step in right away and separate them.
- Set a good example for others and stand up for people who need help. Talk to your school administrators if you need help or call law enforcement.
- Protect yourself from cyberbullying by keeping your passwords secret, blocking bullies, and reporting it to service providers.
Dealing with a Bully
- Try to walk towards other people, such as towards a teacher or someone else who will not put up with bullying.
- Find a teacher, parent, school counselor, or someone else who can help you and immediately tell them what the bully has been saying or doing to you. If the bullying occurs somewhere else, call the police or get a cop's attention if one is nearby.
- Try saying something like, “Joyce is bullying me. She keeps making fun of my weight and she will not stop. I have asked her to stop, but she is still doing it. I think I need some help to make it stop.”
- You can also write a note to explain what is happening. Deliver the note to your teacher, school counselor, or principal.
- Tell someone else if the first person you tell does not do anything about the bully. Don’t accept that you will have to put up with the bullying.
Tip: If you’re an adult dealing with bullying the workplace, talk to your supervisor or someone in human resources. You might find it helpful to keep a written record of your experiences or involve a third party who’s witnessed the bullying.  X Research source
- Don’t try to confront the bully if you feel like doing so might put you in danger.
- To use assertive body language, stand up tall and face the bully. Look the bully in the eye when you are speaking to them. Don’t look down and don’t try to make yourself smaller, such as by folding your arms or bringing your knees in close to your body. Pull yourself up to your full height, keep your arms at your sides, and your feet about shoulder width apart.
- Keep your request short and direct. Try saying something like, “Stop it, Jennifer,” or, “Cut it out, Craig.” As you say this, make sure that you look the bully directly in the eye and speak in a calm, clear voice.
- Don’t compliment or insult the bully. If you say nice things to a bully after they have been insulting you, putting you down, or physically threatening you, then this will only increase their sense of power. Calling the bully names may enrage them and increase their efforts to hurt you.
- Take a few deep breaths and think about something that makes you happy, such as getting a good grade on a test, playing with your dog, or something fun that you are planning to do with your family over the weekend. Doing this may help you to take a step back from the situation and avoid reacting to your emotions. Make sure that you keep your eyes open and maintain eye contact with the bully as you do this.
- Respond to the bully in a calm way. For example, you might say, "Jack, I know you think you're funny, but you're not. Stop." Or, "Stop now or I'm asking the teacher to move you away from me."
- Be sure to talk about how the bully made you feel with someone else later on. Talk with your parents, a school counselor, or a teacher.
Helping Someone Who Is Being Bullied
- You can try standing up for the person and saying something like, “Stop it, Lisa!” Don’t insult the bully or use physical force to stop them from bullying the person.
- If you are not able to intervene or if intervening does not work, then get help from someone. For example, if you see someone being bullied on the playground, then run and get a teacher or recess monitor and tell them what is happening.
- Don’t wait until later to tell someone. If you wait, the person may get hurt.
- Tell a teacher or counselor about any ongoing bullying that you know about. Some forms of bullying, such as exclusion or subtle remarks, may go unnoticed by teachers.
- Ask each person what happened.
- You can also talk to other kids who witnessed the bullying, but don’t do this in front of the bully or the person who was being bullied.
- If you didn’t witness the bullying yourself, take your time sorting out the details of what happened. Do not try to figure everything out on the spot. Talk with both parties if you can, ask witnesses what they saw, and then put all of the pieces together.
- A weapon is involved.
- There are threats involved.
- The violence or threats are motivated by hate, such as racism or homophobia.
- The bully has done serious physical harm to the person.
- Sexual abuse is involved.
- Anything illegal has happened, such as blackmail or robbery.
Did you know? The harmful effects of bullying can be severe and long-term. Kids who experience bullying are more likely to struggle with depression, anxiety, and panic disorders as they get older.  X Research source
Setting a Good Example
- Be careful teasing someone unless you're good enough friends with them to know that they won't take it personally.
- You should also avoid spreading rumors or gossiping about people.
- Avoid talking about people online or sharing pictures of them without their permission.
- If your friends start gossiping about someone, make it clear that you don't participate in that kind of thing. Try saying something like, “I don’t like gossip. Can we talk about something else?”
- If you're part of a group that's intentionally leaving someone else out, tell the group you want to include everyone, because it's the right thing to do. Try saying something like, “I think we should be nicer to Catherine. It must be hard to be the new girl in school.”
- If you see someone getting picked on and fear for that person's safety, tell a teacher or school administrator right away. Try saying something like, “I am worried about David. I have noticed that some of the older boys harass him when he is walking home from school.”
- Try starting a conversation with your friends about bullying. You might say something like, “Did you know that bullying is still happening at our school? I think it is terrible and I would like to do something to stop it.”
- Talk with your teacher or school counselor about ways you can help. For example, you might be invited to give a presentation on bullying in your class or you might be able to help organize an event to raise awareness about bullying.
You can be an anti-bullying influencer. By taking a stand against bullying at your school or in your peer group, you can make a real difference! Studies show that bullying incidents drop significantly when schools put student-led anti-bullying programs in place.  X Research source
Protecting Yourself from Cyberbullying
- Think about who sees what you post online. Complete strangers? Friends? Friends of friends? Privacy settings let you control who sees what.
- Block the bully on instant messaging and email.
- Unfriend and block the person on your social network accounts and use the online privacy settings to ensure that the person can’t contact you again.
- Block the person's phone number to stop intimidating texts and phone calls.
Asking for Help
- Know that other kids in your school are experiencing the same problem, and rules and protocols are in place for good reason.
- If you're a parent, set up a meeting with the school administrator instead of trying to handle the situation on your own.
- Physical violence. Bullying can lead to real physical harm. If you're worried that your health or life is in danger, call the police.
- Stalking and use of intimidation. If someone is violating your personal space and intimidating you, that's a crime.
- Death threats or threats of violence.
- Sharing of potentially humiliating photos or videos without your consent, including sexually explicit photos or videos.
- Hate-related actions or threats.
Tip: If you’re a kid experiencing this kind of bullying in school, try asking an adult (such as a teacher, administrator, or playground monitor) for help, first. If the bullying takes place outside of school, you may need to call the police directly, or ask an adult to call for you.
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- Continued bullying that causes severe emotional or physical damage may be grounds for taking legal action. If you’re an adult dealing with severe bullying, or if your child is being bullied and the measures taken by the school and the bully's parents are not sufficient to correct the problem, you might want to consider getting a lawyer involved. ⧼thumbs_response⧽ Helpful 0 Not Helpful 0
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- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/communication-success/201611/8-keys-handling-adult-bullies
- ↑ https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/passive-aggressive-diaries/201503/what-girls-can-say-and-do-stand-bullying
- ↑ http://www.stopbullying.gov/respond/on-the-spot/index.html
- ↑ http://kidshealth.org/en/parents/bullies.html
- ↑ https://www.sciencenewsforstudents.org/article/bullying-hurts-peer-support-really-helps
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To stop someone bullying you, try to walk away from the situation to distance yourself from them. If they don’t let you leave or they continue to harass you, try to stay calm and tell them to leave you alone. For example, you can say something like, “Stop it, Craig. You’re bothering me.” However, if you feel physically threatened by a bully, you don’t have to deal with them alone. Tell a teacher, parent, or counselor as soon as possible, who will help you put a stop to the bullying. It's not always easy, but try your best to ignore bullies, since they're probably just trying to get a reaction out of you. For more tips from our Mental Health co-author, including how to help someone else who is being bullied, read on! Did this summary help you? Yes No
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Bullying and Problem Solving
Latest Research on Bullying
The American Psychological Association has recently published two new studies about bullying.
In a study just released this summer, researchers discovered that children and adolescents who lack social problem-solving skills are more at risk of becoming bullies, victims or both than those who don’t have these difficulties. They found that boys bully more than girls, and bullies and victims both have poor social problem-solving skills. More than anything else, poor academic performance predicts those who will bully.
In another study released last December, researchers reported that students who watch as their peers endure the verbal or physical abuses of another student could become as psychologically distressed, if not more so, by the events than the victims themselves.
Developing positive problem-solving skills seems to be a crucial part of avoiding bullying. Unfortunately, we are not born with these skills, nor are they taught in schools. Youth must rely on the adults around them – parents, teachers, coaches, etc. – to teach them how to solve their problems. This is a skill that will serve them well their entire lives and is well worth the time investment.
Teaching Problem Solving Skills
Below are the essential steps for solving problems. We have written them as the parent working with the child to solve the problems, which is something to do with elementary and middle school students. Encourage them to use these steps in small decisions so that by the time they are faced with a big decision they are used to the process. As the child enters high school, the parents should remind the youth of these steps, but allow the teen to work through these steps on their own.
- Properly identify the problem. Teach youth to clearly understand their difficulty and what specifically is distressing them. Ask them: “How is your current situation different from how you would like it to be?” Encourage them to approach the process with a positive attitude, viewing the situation as an opportunity to improve things.
- Generate several alternative solutions. Try sitting down with the teenager and brainstorming a list of possible solutions to the given situation. Ask the child what they have tried before in similar situations, and what outcomes they experienced. Ask them to predict likely consequences, both positive and negative, for each possibility. Encourage the teen to not limit themselves, but to come up with as many options as possible even if they are unrealistic, because this type of creative process may help generate even better solutions.
- Make a decision. Once you have made a list of options together, help the teen narrow them down. For each option, consider how realistic it is, how likely the teen would be to implement it, and the potential obstacles. Ask the child, “Which option accomplishes your goals and has the fewest drawbacks?” Then let the teen choose the option they would like to try.
- Implement and verify your solution. Encourage the teen to implement their solution, give it their best effort and see how it works. Check back frequently to process how the solution is or isn’t working, and help them modify it as necessary. The goal here is for kids to learn to feel confident about solving their own problems.
These steps will work in a wide variety of situations, but hopefully by giving children a firm understanding of how to solve their problems, we will be also mitigating their risk of bullying. However, even with the best intentions, some children still fall prey to this prevalent problem. Here are some tips for parents on how to handle bullying situations.
Tips for Parents to Prevent Bullying
Communication is essential in almost every aspect of raising a child, and this issue is no exception. Even if your child has had no experience with bullying – as victim or perpetrator – do not assume that all will continue to be well. We must take the time to define what bullying is, because it is often not recognized when it’s among friends. Our children must realize that bullying is any behavior that hurts another person. Youth may understand that name calling is bullying, but believe that gossiping is ok. Teens may recognize that hitting someone is bullying, but think that tripping someone is just a joke. Along with explaining the definition of bullying, we should clearly define the consequences of those actions. Encourage their empathy by talking through how a bullying victim feels and how it may impact their life. Discuss the possible ramifications of getting in trouble for bullying, including school suspension.
Tips for Parents if Your Child is a Bullying Victim
If your child comes to you because a bully is bothering him, do not ignore the problem. It’s hard to know what to do in these situations, but while children do need to learn how to work things out on their own, being victimized by a bully should not be tolerated. If the problem is ignored, your child could be hurt, his self-esteem could be wounded, or he could become a bully himself.
Here are five steps you can take if your child is having problems with a bully:
- Believe what your child tells you. This is an important first step and will help your child trust that you are able to help him with his problem. Accept what he has to say at face value by attentively listening to them without interruption.
- Let your child know that he is not alone. Most children have to deal with some type of bullying behavior at one time or another. Reassure your child that he is not the problem.
- If your child is being threatened in a physical or illegal way at school, report the problem. Your child may not want you to do this, but violence cannot be tolerated. You need to model assertive behavior by alerting those in charge where the bullying is taking place.
- Teach your child assertive behavior and how to ignore routine teasing. Let them know it is okay to say ‘No.’ Sometimes even friends bully, so letting your child know they can be true to their own feelings and say ‘no’ can go a long way.
- Encourage your child not to give in to a bully. Giving up possessions or giving into a bully in any way encourages the bully to continue. Identify and role-play ways for your child to respond to a bully – showing assertive but not aggressive behavior.
Tips for Parents if Your Child is a Bully
If you find out that your child is bullying others, you will need to actively stop this behavior. Here are seven steps you can take:
- Make it clear to your child that you take bullying seriously and that you will not tolerate this behavior.
- Develop clear and consistent rules within your family for your children’s behavior.
- Praise and reinforce your children for following rules and use non-physical, non-hostile consequences for rule violations.
- Spend more time with your child and carefully supervise and monitor his or her activities. Find out who your child’s friends are, and how and where they spend free time.
- Build on your child’s talents by encouraging him or her to get involved in pro-social activities (such as clubs, music lessons, non-violent sports).
- Share your concerns with your child’s teacher, counselor, and/or principal. Work together to send clear messages to your child that the bullying must stop.
- If you and/or your child need additional help, talk with a school counselor and/or mental health professional.
- www.cdc.gov/ncipc/dvp/dvp.htm – The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention web site contains a number of fact sheets and publications on youth violence, with links to other valuable resources. It also includes the truth and myths about youth violence, kids’ stories, things you can do to avoid violence, and a reading list for teens.
- www.ericfacility.net/ericdigests/ed407154.html – A concise summary of research on bullying and effective programs to prevent bullying in schools.
- www.ncfy.com/expreng.pdf – This booklet for teens offers great tips for handling the tough times inevitable in high school.
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In recent years bullying has received greater attention in America’s schools, though the issue of bullying is hardly a new one. While many people might consider bullying to be a matter involving physical intimidation and even physical violence, the range of behaviors that comprise bullying are much broader, and include psychological as well as physical intimidation and actions. According to Long and Alexander (2010), bullying “has been defined as hostile actions, recurring over time that is deliberately destructive and occurs without provocation.” Long and Alexander go on to describe bullying as “a subtype of violent behavior,” driving home the point that the emotional impact of bullying is a form of violence even if no actual physical contact is involved. Bullying behaviors are not restricted to schools; they’re also found ion homes and other social settings, and even in the workplace among adults. From a statistical standpoint, however, bullying is especially pervasive among students of middle-school age (Long & Alexander), and as such it is of significant concern to administrators, teachers, and parents. The following paper examines some of the issues and problems associated with school bullying, as well as several possible solutions.
While bullying is associated with a number of problems for victims and those whose role it is to protect them, perhaps the most significant problem involving bullying is simply recognizing it. There are a number of reasons why bullying often goes unnoticed; among these is that many of the behaviors that constitute bullying often take place less overtly than some of the most blatant acts of physical intimidation or violence. Identifying is inherently subjective, and those who are tasked with identifying it and reporting it will not always see bullying when it occurs (Brank, Hoetger& Hazen, 2012). What might look like harmless teasing to one person might appear to be a clear case of bullying to another. Many forms of bullying fall under the heading of indirect or “relational” bullying, including gossip and rumor, social exclusion, and other social behaviors that can be difficult to identify as bullying (Long & Alexander). Another related problem is that even when some teachers or administrators are aware of bullying, they choose not to intervene. According to one study, 71% of teachers simply ignore most instances of bullying (Schroeder, 1999). Before any effective solutions can be found to bullying it is first necessary for teachers, administrators and parents to know how to identify it and to take it seriously.
Another set of problems associated with bullying are the risk factors that correlate to becoming a potential victim of bullying.Being the victim of bullying is known to be associated with a number of serious risk factors. Studies have determined that there are some cognitive and emotional factors that are commonly seen in victims, which seems to indicate a causal relationship between the two (Brank et al.) These include such conditions as Asperger’s syndrome, a condition on the autism spectrum that undermines an individual’s capacity to understand social norms and respond with socially appropriate behaviors. Children with stronger peer and friend relationships are less likely to be targeted for bullying, though there may be an inverse relationship at work, with victims of bullying retreating from social relationships, thereby affirming the conditions of victim status (Brank et al.). External factors such as socioeconomic background and race are also correlated with bullying, especially when these factors place victims in a social minority at school.
The most serious problems associated with bullying are, of course, the effects on victims. Bullying victims suffer from a range of problems, including higher rates of emotional disturbances such as depression and anxiety (Long & Alexander). Victims of bullying are at a greater risk of committing suicide, using drugs and alcohol, and becoming detached from social settings such as school and family (Brank et al). Victims may develop overt physical symptoms predicated by the stress of victimization, and often report headaches, stomachaches, and other ailments (Collier, 2013). Bullying has clear and often serious effects on victims.
Solving the problem of bullying has no one-size-fits-all solution, and typically requires a multi-pronged approach. The first step towards addressing the issue of bullying is simply raising awareness among responsible adults about the seriousness of the problem. Teachers, administrators, and parents must be given the tools and information to identify bullying behaviors and to understand their negative consequences in order to be able to intervene appropriately. This requires more than just informal conversations, and must include appropriate programs that are provided in an adequate and complete fashion. Settings fort this might include seminars and forums for school officials and teachers, as well as parent-teacher conferences and other settings where parents can be given educational materials and information about available resources.
This educational information must be backed up by practical structures and interventions in schools, with clearly-defined anti-bullying policies and clearly-defined consequences for students who victimize other students (Long & Alexander). Students must also be properly informed about the seriousness of bullying and about the consequences for bullies who engage in inappropriate behavior. Many states have passed anti-bullying legislation which makes bullying a legal matter, and such legislation generally includes significant punitive measures for bullies, including suspension, expulsion, and even incarceration (Duncan, 2011). While such rules and laws are helpful and appropriate, the best way to protect potential victims is for those responsible for supervising students to intervene as early as possible to minimize the damage of bullying.
Parents of bullying victims can also take steps to minimize the effects of bullying. This can include providing “insulating or protective factors” (Brank et al) to help the victim avoid contact with the bully and to provide positive emotional support. For victims who do not have strong social bonds, parents can help by involving their children in activities of interest or, in some cases, switching schools or finding alternatives to typical education. Victims of bullying may be helped by counseling, and schools should help provide information about the resources available to victims and their families.
While bullying is clearly a serious problem for many victims, it is also clear that bullying behaviors often go unnoticed or ignored by those who are in a position to intervene. Teachers and school officials must learn to identify the range of bullying behaviors and to take these behaviors seriously, while school officials must provide appropriate information for teachers and establish guidelines and policies for students related to anti-bullying measures. Parents must learn to spot the signs that indicate their child is being bullied, and take advantage of the resources and information available to protect and help their children. There is no single solution to stopping bullying, but by working together, parents and schools can help to reduce the problem.
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Top 10 Ways to Stop Cyberbullying
What is Cyberbullying?
Bullying has evolved from the days of after-school fistfights or shakedowns for lunch money. In keeping pace with today’s technology, bullying has gone cyber—moving to email, text and social media. This shift to the internet has amplified the devastating impact of bullying because internet mediums facilitate rapid distribution and have no ‘take-back’ or ‘erase’ buttons. What may start as a petty playground fight can quickly escalate and end in tragedy. Here’s a look at a cyberbullying by the numbers and the top 10 ways to stop bullies in their tracks.
1) Tell Someone
The vast majority, 90%, of teens agree that cyberbullying a problem, and 63% believe this is a serious problem. Unfortunately, most teens also believe that schools, politicians and social media companies are failing to address the problem. The good news is that most teens also feel that their parents are effective allies. Still, it’s on parents to be vigilant and reach out to their children if their perceive a possible problem. Often, teens will hesitate to tell parents or other adults if they are the victims of cyberbullying. Often, this lack of communication stems from embarrassment or fear. Victims worry that teachers and parents won’t be able to stop the abuse, and that the harassment will only worsen once the bully finds out that they’ve told an adult.
If you believe that your child is being bullied, or is a bully, it’s critical for you to reach out immediately. Look for practical ways to address the issue, such as involving school administrators and/or a therapist or by contacting social media sites directly.
2) Keep Everything
In some cases, bullying crosses the line from aggravation to criminal harassment or threats. A 2018 study found that children and young adults who are the victims of cyberbullying are more than twice as likely to engage in self-harm or attempt suicide.
The tragedy has become all too familiar: Channing Smith , Gabbie Green . Dolly Everett . And suicide is only one of a plethora of possible bad outcomes. But you can change that starting today. Read one learn some quick ad effective techniques to helping your family protect against and overcome cyberbullying.
There is no time to hesitate if you believe that your child is the victim of cyberbullying. Reach out to your child immediately. Save all posts, messages and communications from the bully by taking screenshots, or photos on your smartphone, in addition to recording the time and date and any other relevant information. Bring everything to the school administration and consider involving the police if you feel that things have crossed the line.
3) Don’t Engage
A 2018 survey of children’s online behavior found that approximately 60% of children who use social media have witnessed some form of bullying, and that, for various reasons, most children ignored the behavior altogether. In order to combat this, a mix of acknowledgment and avoidance is recommended. Those observing the attacks must be willing to report problems to friends, family members or teachers. While those being bullied are often better off ignoring the attacks rather than responding. The goal of any bully is to goad his or her victim into anger, in effect “getting to” the target and making him or her acknowledge ridiculous claims or malicious statements.
The best option for victims is to block the bully from social media and email accounts altogether. For many social media apps, such as Facebook or Instagram, blocking not only removes the bully from the victim’s view, it also means that the bully can no longer directly link to the victim’s profile or even see posts by mutual contacts that tag the victim.
4) Learn More
According to enough.org , as of February 2018, nearly half (47%) of all young people had been the victims of cyberbullying and a 2018 Google survey reported that teachers now consider cyberbullying to be the #1 classroom safety problem. As parents, it’s crucial to learn all you can about what your children are doing on the internet and with their smartphones. Consider cybersecurity options dedicated to keeping kids safe online .
One common misconception is that boys are always the aggressors with and girls, the likely victims. However, girls are just as likely as boys to be both victims and bullies. While boys are more likely to threaten physical violence, girls focus on emotional abuse designed to undermine victims’ self-esteem, which can be even more damaging.
5) Understand the Scope
Many adults believe social media sites are the likely stages for the bullying behaviors, and they’re right. But, with 95% of teens now using smartphones, there’s a far greater scope of potential harm. Bullying can occur on Facebook, Twitter and Instagram, or through Snapchat, emails and texts coming directly from bullies. In addition to almost ubiquitous smartphone access, 45% of teens report near constant online activity, harassment too can become almost constant. With the rapid changes in technology, it’s imperative to continuously monitor your children’s mobile devices and their online behavior to stay ahead of any potential threats.
6) Recognize the Signs
A cyberbullied child looks the same as any adolescent—often unwilling to talk about his or her day or disclose personal information. But you should be on the lookout for other signs that your child is the victim of cyberbullying , like a loss of interest in favorite activities, an unexplained decline in grades, skipped classes, symptoms of depression and changes in sleeping or eating habits. While any of these may be indicative of multiple concerns, be especially alert if also notice a sudden lack of interest in using the computer or a tendency to become upset after being online or using their smartphone. Or in the case of a child who is the aggressor, extreme anger if you take his or her phone or computer privileges away.
7) Keep Data Secure
In the cases of Izzy Dix and Gabbie Green, bullies were able to set up a fake Facebook profiles for the victims opening up a whole new level of abuse. It’s important for you and your teen to be diligent when it comes to their online posting behavior. It’s also good idea to limit the number of personal photos and information that your child posts. Make sure they understand how to create secure passwords and to change them regularly. Bullies have been known to hack or “hijack” victims’ profiles to post rude and offensive comments. Likewise, teens should always set their social media profiles to “private” and ignore messages from people they don’t know altogether. Today’s comprehensive internet security solutions include password management tools and other cybersecurity features that can help keep your children’s account and online identities secure.
8) Don’t Get Turned Around
As noted by dosomething.org , some victims do fight back against bullies, and then become bullies themselves. While this may seem like one way to solve the problem, what often happens is a “sort of back-and-forth between victim and aggressor” which tends to continue, and escalate, the behavior. Make sure to educate your teen about being respectful of others’ feelings and privacy online. Tell your child that you understand the impulse to retaliate, but that in the long-term it’s best to not get involved in that way.
9) Stand Together
It’s important to stand together and look for long-term solutions to cyberbullying. In 2015 Canada passed a bill into law that made it illegal to distribute images of a person without their consent, and allows police to obtain a warrant for information about internet users based on “ reasonable grounds to suspect ” an offense has been perpetrated. The bill wasn’t perfect, but it became a road map for future legislation to keep kids safe on the internet. Meanwhile, in the US, laws vary by state , so it’s important to understand your rights and escalate things to the proper authorities if they become out of hand.
10) Hold Bullies Accountable
Bark , a new machine learning-based app, created “in collaboration with child psychologists, youth advisors, digital media experts and law enforcement professionals” offers monitoring and protection from both direct cyberbullying and the signs of being a victim of cyberbullying. To date, the has prevented 16 credible school shooting. This addition to warning parents when teens search terms related to self-harm or abuse.
Cyberbullying statistics make it clear: This is a persistent, serious problem. Armed with data, open communication and actionable solutions, however, parents and teens can help turn the tide against cyberbullying.
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5 Ways to Stop Bullying and Move into Action
With daily news reports about the devastating impact on students who have been relentlessly bullied, teachers find themselves on the front line in addressing bullying and intolerance.
It is time to move into action. Not In Our School offers solutions-based strategies and tools for change to a network of schools that are working to create safe, inclusive and accepting climates. The core ideas and actions of Not In Our School include:
Identification of Problems of Intolerance and Bullying
The focus is on problems that result from students bullying, harassing or being exclusionary and hateful. Often, harassment is based on gender, race, religion, sexual orientation, appearance, or disability. The first step is to start with a dialogue about the particular problem. Start with a lesson on mapping bully zones .
Solutions Defined by Students and Peer-to-Peer Actions
Students are supported in defining the problems and solutions needed to incorporate peer-to-peer actions, make their schools safe and help bystanders gather the courage to become "upstanders." A student-led anti-bullying assembly is a powerful way to encourage everyone to get involved.
The entire school community unites to say Not in Our School . This could take many forms -- buttons, banners, slogans, t-shirts, pledges, assemblies and school-wide activities -- but it needs to grow out of authentic discussion and efforts to create a safe and welcoming environment for students of all backgrounds and gender identities. We've created a quick-start download to help launch this effort at your school.
Many activities have been successfully implemented in schools and may be viewed in videos with lesson guides on the Not In Our School website. An array of testimonials from administrators, teachers, and students are available as well.
What is the Urgency?
In three horrifying hate crimes by teens and young adults, a 21-year-old man killed nine African Americans during a bible study group in Charleston, South Carolina in 2015; and high school students murdered a transgender Latina youth in Newark, California in 2002, and a Latino man in Patchogue, New York in 2008. As many as 20 people were involved in or stood and watched the gang rape of a 15-year-old girl outside a Richmond, California high school homecoming dance in 2009. Every day, news outlets report cases of youth who are bullied because they are perceived to be gay.
Bullying can lead to serious emotional problems, multiple school absences, and higher risk factors for suicide. These incidents have raised national awareness with anti-bullying laws in all 50 states that require schools to take immediate action regarding bullying. According to a UCLA psychology study, 70.6 percent of teens have seen bullying occur in their schools. But if someone intervenes, the bullying stops within 10 seconds . Additionally, research from scholars at University of California - Davis found that approaches to bullying and harassment have a better chance of success if bystanders, who make up the vast majority, are the focus of efforts to shift social norms. Interestingly, students seeking to move up the social ladder engage in acts of social cruelty, erroneously believing that it will increase their status. In our PBS film Not In Our Town: Class Actions , middle school students take the lead in educating their peers and their teachers in a NIOS anti-bullying initiative that reached 50,000 students following two suicides of local youth in Lancaster, California.
Five Practical Ways to Stop Bullying and Intolerance
1) Recognize and Respond
Bullying and intolerance manifest as verbal, written or physical acts that harm another person.
- Educate students, parents and staff about taking bullying seriously and how to recognize it. Make an action plan to respond swiftly to incidents and daily teasing .
- Identify and monitor places where most bullying happens (e.g., on the way to and from school, in the cafeteria, and on the school yard.)
2) Create Dialogue
Create opportunities for open dialogue with youth about bullying and intolerance. Let students lead through peer-to-peer action.
- Provide opportunities for students to share their feelings, problems or ideas.
- Get students involved in organizing anti-bullying forums where they resolve problems.
3) Encourage Bystanders to Become "Upstanders"
Upstanders are people who stand up for themselves and others.
- Model ways for young people to intervene and speak up. Practice with role-playing .
- Help youth develop effective phrases to reject negative comments or social media posts.
- Have older students help younger students learn to speak up .
4) Foster Safety and Inclusion
Foster identify safe and welcoming environments that promote inclusion and acceptance, places where students feel everyone is respected and their identity is valued.
- Connect with young people and create the trust that will help them come forward if they are being bullied.
- Listen to them, pay attention and offer support when students are upset or sad.
5) Educate Your Community
Partner with others to take joint action in educating students, teachers and parents about bullying in your school and community.
- Create a coalition of elected, school and civic community leaders to sign a school-wide pledge to say No Bullying: Not In Our School/Not In Our Town.
- Sponsor a "Not In Our Schools" Week with buttons, banners, slogans, t-shirts and school-wide activities .
Not in Our School as a movement and campaign is an effort that asks everyone to change the atmosphere that can lead to bullying and intolerance. Although the process can begin with these five steps, a safer climate for students does not happen overnight. It requires a sustained and collaborative effort of students, parents, educators and community members who work together to model and practice empathy, thoughtful responses and respect for different backgrounds and perspectives. It grows out of authentic discussion and efforts to create a safe and welcoming environment for students of all backgrounds and gender identities. In this lesson idea, " New Immigrants Share Their Stories " students may begin to think about their own relationships in the community.
School needs to be a place where students discover their identities, and where each student feels that a unique identity is an asset to him or her -- and to the world. They need to feel emotionally comfortable in a warm and "identity safe" environment where stereotypes and stereotype threat (the fear of being judged by a negative stereotype) are addressed. Efforts to build empathy and involve students in the process of change can shift the school culture to one where offending or hurting someone else, either in person or online, is not seen as cool. The whole culture can become a warm, caring environment where bullying is much less likely to occur.
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What Is Bullying?
Bullying is when someone is picked on by a person or group. Bullies might make fun of people who they think don't fit in.
Bullies might make fun of others for many things, including:
- appearance (how someone looks)
- behavior (how someone acts)
- race or religion
- social status (whether someone is popular)
- sexual identity (like being gay, lesbian, or transgender)
Bullying can come in different types:
- Physical bullying is when bullies hurt their targets physically. This might be shoving, tripping, punching, or hitting. Any form of touching that a person does not want can be bullying and possible sexual assault .
- Verbal bullying is taunting or teasing someone.
- Psychological bullying is gossiping about or excluding people to make them feel bad about themselves.
- Cyberbullying is when bullies use the internet and social media and say things that they might not say in person. This can include sending mean texts, posting insults about someone on Twitter, or making rude comments on their Instagram pictures. Cyberbullies also might post personal information, pictures, or videos designed to hurt or embarrass someone else.
What Are the Effects of Bullying?
Bullies often pick on people over and over again. This can make teens:
- feel afraid, stressed , depressed , or anxious
- have thoughts about suicide or hurting themselves
- have trouble with their schoolwork
- have problems with mood, energy level, sleep, and appetite
What Kind of People Are Bullies?
Both guys and girls can be bullies. Bullies may be:
- outgoing and aggressive. This kind of bully might make fun of you to your face or physically hurt you.
- quiet and sneaky. This kind of bully might try to manipulate in secret. They might anonymously start a damaging rumor just to see what happens.
- friendly and fake. This kind of bully might pretend to be your friend so that you tell them things, but then do hurtful things behind your back.
Many bullies are a lot alike. They:
- like to be in control of others
- are focused on themselves
- have poor social skills and have a hard time getting along with people
- might not care about people, or lack empathy
- are often insecure and bully others to make themselves feel better
Some bullies don't understand normal social emotions like guilt, empathy, compassion, or remorse. These people need help from a mental health professional like a counselor, social worker, psychiatrist, or psychologist.
What Can I Do?
There are many things that you can do if you're being bullied or know someone who is. You can:
Tell a trusted adult. Adults in positions of authority, like parents, teachers, or coaches, often can deal with bullying without the bully ever learning how they found out about it.
Ignore the bully and walk away. Bullies like getting a reaction. If you walk away or ignore them, you're telling them that you don't care.
Walk tall and hold your head high. Using this type of body language sends a message that you're not vulnerable.
Don't get physical. You're more likely to be hurt and get into trouble if you try to fight a bully. Work out your anger in another way, such as exercising or writing it down (make sure you delete or tear up any emails, posts, letters, or notes you write in anger).
Try to talk to the bully. Try to point out that his or her behavior is serious and harmful. This can work well if you notice that a member of your own group has started to pick on or shun another member.
Practice confidence . Practice ways to respond to the bully verbally or through your behavior. Practice feeling good about yourself (even if you have to fake it at first).
Talk about it. It may help to talk to a guidance counselor, teacher, or friend — anyone who can give you the support you need. Talking can be a good outlet for the fears and frustrations that can build when you're being bullied.
Find your (true) friends. If you've been bullied with rumors or gossip, tell your friends so that they can help you feel safe and secure. Avoid being alone, especially when the bullying is happening a lot.
Stand up for friends and others you see being bullied. Your actions help the victim feel supported and may stop the bullying.
Join your school's bullying or violence prevention programs. Peer mediation is another way you may be able to work things out with a bully. If your school doesn't have these programs, start one of your own.
What If I'm the Bully?
Some people bully to deal with their own feelings of stress, anger, or frustration. Bullies might also have been bullied and now want to show their power by bullying someone else.
If you have bullied someone:
- Try talking to a trusted adult to talk about why you have become a bully. Ask them for some advice on how you could change.
- Try thinking of how the person being bullied feels. Imagine how you would feel if you were the target.
Even though people are different, it's important to treat everyone with respect.
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10. Problem-Solving Activities
Bullying is different from other social problems children may face. For example, while conflict may be solved through negotiation and compromise, bullying cannot because it involves a power imbalance—the bully has more power than the victim. Solving a bullying problem requires analysis of the problem by the target and/or bystanders, and sometimes intervention by the teacher. Problem-solving skills can help children analyze and solve bullying problems .
Early childhood educators can help young children understand the problem of bullying and how to apply problem-solving skills to situations involving bullying. These skills include:
- Defining the problem
- Thinking of solutions
- Anticipating the likely consequences
- Choosing the most effective responses
The following activities give young children an opportunity to develop and practice the problem-solving skills they need to help prevent and stop bullying.
Activities for Teaching Problem-Solving Skills
Activity 1: What If?
In this activity, children are presented with scenarios describing various bullying problems (physical, verbal, and relational); their task is to discuss and practice the best response to each situation. Young children are more likely to think of and use their problem-solving skills in bullying situations if they have an opportunity to practice them, with adult guidance.
Read the following scenarios:
- Physical bullying: Whenever Javier sits on his favorite bench on the playground, David tells his friends, “Watch this.” David walks over to the bench and sits right next to Javier. Then he uses his body to push Javier off the end of the bench and onto the ground. David and his friends laugh at Javier, and Javier starts to cry.
- Verbal bullying: Grace visited the zoo last weekend and afterward she started calling the children in her playgroup by animal names. Grace called Erin “Hippo.” Erin’s face got red, and she left the playgroup to play by herself. Now, whenever Erin tries to rejoin the playgroup, Grace and some of the other kids call out, “Erin is a hippo,” which makes Erin very unhappy.
- Relational bullying: Shaquilla told her friends to stay away from Penny because “Penny isn’t cool.” Now, whenever Penny tries to play with Shaquilla or one of her friends, they say, “No, we’re too busy.” Penny feels left out and doesn’t know why they won’t play with her.
After reading each scenario, ask the children to think of several responses that victims and bystanders could give and the likely consequences of each response. Have children choose the best responses. Conduct role plays in which the teacher plays the role of a child who bullies, and children practice using the responses they’ve identified as effective. Make sure that children have a chance to play both victims and bystanders and that the responses include asking an adult for help.
Activity 2: Problem-Solving Team
In this activity, children use the insight and skills they gained in the What If? activity to address a variety of pre-bullying problems.
Before the activity, create “Solution Cards,” choosing from the solutions below. Write each solution on a large index card, leaving space for the children to illustrate it.
Tell children that they will work together as a problem-solving team to solve a pre-bullying problem—a hurtful behavior (verbal, physical, or relational) that, if not stopped, may turn into bullying. Give children an example of what a pre-bullying behavior might look like:
If two children want to play with the same toy, this turns into pre-bullying when one child demands the toy or takes it by force and the other child gives in.
Explain that when you’re faced with a problem, there are things you should tell yourself and there are things you should tell others. Here are some statements that everyone involved in a bullying situation can say to themselves or say to others. Read the Solution Cards aloud, and have the children illustrate each card.
Present the children with a pre-bullying problem that might occur in their classroom (without using real names). Talk about how your problem-solving team might solve this problem, and have the children select the Solution Cards that would work best to solve that problem. Remind them that different problems require different solutions.
Repeat the activity with different pre-bullying problems, and have children think of the best solutions for each role in the problem: kids who bully, kids who are targets, and kids who are bystanders.
Conclude the activity by displaying all the Solution Cards. Explain that these cards can help everyone remember the variety of solutions for solving pre-bullying problems.
For kids who bully:
- “When I’m feeling mad, take three deep breaths."
- “Treat my friends the way I want to be treated.”
- “Sorry, I didn’t know I hurt you.”
- “No hurtful name calling.”
For kids who are targets:
- “Stand up for myself.”
- “Don’t fight back.”
- “Walk away.”
- “Ask for help.”
- “Sorry, no, I’m playing with this now.”
- “You can’t say I can’t play.”
- “Wait, it’s my turn now.”
For kids who are bystanders:
- “I will stand up for my friends.”
- “I have the power to help.”
- “I’ll sit with you at snack time.”
- “I’ll play with you at recess.”
- “I’ll be your friend.”
- “Let’s get help together.”
Miss Manners: Can society ever solve the work/life balance problem?
- Published: Mar. 06, 2023, 8:00 p.m.
- Judith Martin
GENTLE READERS: The clash between people who don’t want to return to the office (employees) and those who want them to do so (employers) is no surprise to Miss Manners. The pandemic might have brought this out, but the work/private life problem has existed throughout history.
Society needs to provide both. Obviously, it needs workers. But it also needs people to attend to family life, community welfare and functions of leisure, recreation and entertainment, as these promote general satisfaction.
Therefore, society has, in different eras, come up with different solutions to staff both realms. And all of them have been terrible.
For centuries, the division was the one that seemed most reasonable to those with the power to enforce it: The poor would work, with only enough of a private life necessary to produce another generation of workers. This freed the rich to pursue such leisure activities as socializing, sports and, when things got really dull, warfare.
But in the 19th century, the Industrial Revolution produced a class of people who were neither rich enough not to work, nor poor enough to put up with forgoing pleasure. So the division changed: All the poor would still work and the rich play, but among the reasonably solvent, males would earn money working, and females would perform the functions that did not pay.
This was adjusted in the mid-20th century to admit females to certain paid jobs (notably, those lacking in prestige), even if for less pay and fewer opportunities to advance. Ever since then, efforts have been made to give females the work advantages that males enjoyed -- including the same work schedule.
But just as the school schedule remains as designed under the presumption that children needed to be free in the summer to help with the crops, the work schedule remains as it was under the presumption that the worker had a partner taking care of the private realm.
The underlying problem was hardly addressed: Who would staff that private realm? For the essential parts, household and child care, it has been either the better-paid female worker or one in a poor-paying job. And the merely enjoyable parts, chiefly family and social life, suffered from neglect.
So that solution didn’t work, either -- and people are finally noticing.
Whatever compromise might be worked out eventually will take a great deal of negotiating. Employers, as well as employees, have legitimate concerns about work time and place that must be addressed.
Miss Manners’ contribution is to point out that the easiest part to cut is the pseudo-social life that has become a feature of business models: what is now referred to as “mandatory fun.” Surely workers no long believe that after-hours drinks, office birthday celebrations and team-building exercises are adequate substitutes for time spent with people of their own choosing.
And bosses will find that encouraging a cordial, cooperative, cheerful level of professional behavior will be easier and more productive than trying to make employees love one another.
DEAR MISS MANNERS: Can I touch up my lipstick at the dinner table?
GENTLE READER: You’ll only get it all over your fork and glass.
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How to Equip Your Team to Problem Solve Without You
- Luis Velasquez
- Kristin Gleitsman
Stop shielding your team from challenges and responsibilities.
In trying to “protect” their teams, many managers become what the authors refer to as “umbrella managers”: well-intentioned leaders who want to protect their teams from all inclement organizational weather. But this type of leadership comes with a heavy price for the manager, the team, and the organization. Many individuals leading highly sophisticated teams for the first time need help to figure out the balance between supporting their teams and delegating effectively. The authors present several key mental shifts umbrella managers should make to move from protecting their employees to supporting them.
Susan,* a client of Luis’ and a mentee of Kristin’s, managed her team with a fundamental belief that it was her job to “protect” them. Her belief was grounded in good intentions. She wanted her team to be happy and successful in a highly demanding and fast-moving organization. However, her approach constantly put her in the position of intercepting challenges, wanting to become a shield for her team .
Perhaps this behavior endeared Susan to her team initially, but it had other unintended consequences, especially as the team’s scope of responsibilities grew. Her peers and cross-functional colleagues didn’t see her as collaborative, partly because she was often perceived as a blocker. Her behavior led her team to adopt a disempowered stance, and they became dependent on her to fight their battles. Worse, it put a lot of pressure on her to be present in all major decisions. As her overwhelm mounted, her performance slipped, both in terms of her ability to stay on top of key projects and to show up at meetings with a calm, clear perspective. Ultimately, the behavior caused senior leadership to view her as volatile and not in control.
We call leaders who engage in this kind of behavior “umbrella managers”: well-intentioned leaders who want to protect their teams from all inclement organizational weather. But this type of leadership comes with a heavy price for the manager, the team, and the organization:
- The umbrella manager feels personally responsible for every decision. Their ability to stay on top of all details is unrealistic; managers can’t do it all . And their sense of overwhelm rapidly increases. As a result, the team becomes passive and complacent in their decision making. The manager becomes a bottleneck, slowing decisions and frustrating would-be collaborators.
- Team members don’t benefit from learning to navigate the storm themselves, resulting in reduced employee development. They’re not positioned to form strong cross-functional relationships and therefore miss out on having higher organizational visibility and impact.
- With team members’ inability to navigate independently, the organization experiences reduced productivity and innovation capability from the team. The capacity to be nimble and adapt to changing circumstances in these organizations becomes almost impossible, resulting in the team rigidly holding onto outdated plans, wasting precious time and resources.
In our experience, this behavior is not uncommon in emerging leaders. Many individuals leading highly sophisticated teams for the first time need help to figure out the balance between supporting their teams and delegating effectively.
Shift your thinking
We recently caught up with Susan and asked about the “lightbulb” moment that led her to stop protecting her employees and start supporting them:
As I progressed in my career and began to manage more senior staff, it became increasingly clear that I needed to put away my umbrella and look for more effective and scalable ways of helping the managers on my team navigate challenges. I let go of the need to protect my employees and adopted a different mental model that more closely resembles handing out rain ponchos than opening an umbrella. Instead of putting myself between my reports and difficulty, I now support them by providing the tools they need to navigate these challenges independently.
To move from protecting your employees to supporting them, you need to make a few key mental shifts:
Face your fears directly.
The first step is understanding what beliefs underpin your current behavior. Where does your instinct to “protect” come from? Do you worry your employees will crumble under pressure and, as a result, make you look bad? Do you believe that their wrong decisions will compromise project outcomes and jeopardize their own success? Are you concerned that your value to your team depends on your ability to represent all aspects of their work fully? Ask yourself if other leaders in the organization are operating under the same assumptions. Challenge yourself to figure out what would need to be true in order for you to let go of this underlying belief. Additionally, ask yourself how your current approach might be harming your team.
Assume your employee can solve the problem.
By empowering your employees to solve their own problems, you can demonstrate your trust and confidence in the team’s abilities. For example, when people raise a challenge, they often don’t need help finding the solution — they either have one already or can come up with one by talking the challenge through with a trusted partner. You can turn yourself into that partner to improve your leadership effectiveness and avoid offering solutions too quickly. Doing so also encourages team members to think independently and come up with creative solutions to issues. To help them identify workable solutions and pick the right course of action, consider asking, “What options do you have?”
Embrace short-term stumbles for long-term gains.
Short-term stumbles provide learning experiences and opportunities; they can uncover weaknesses, areas of opportunity, and improvement. Allowing your team to “fail” (and learn) independently is a faster path to growth and long-term success than ensuring the short-term outcomes are well controlled.
For Susan, this realization was central to her realization that she was stifling her team. As she put it:
Early in my career, I thought the objective as a manager was to ensure a good outcome for every situation, large or small. However, when I moved to manage a larger organization, I had to get clear on what the truly high-stakes decisions were and help myself and the team build capabilities around recovering from small setbacks or missteps. This perspective allowed me to let go of many of the decisions I had been making, which gave me more time to coach emerging leaders on the team and for higher-level strategic thinking.
Lean more on your leadership strengths.
As leaders grow and their scope of responsibilities expands, their functional knowledge becomes less relevant as leadership skills take priority. Many managers struggle with this identity shift. They worry that if they’re not personally on top of all the details, they’ll be perceived as ineffective when in fact the opposite is true.
Stop chasing down every detail and free up time for activities like figuring out which decisions are critical, clarifying “what good looks like,” and getting alignment with your peers and other parts of the organization.
Empower your team
Once you’ve adjusted your mindset about how you support your employees, you can start to take action:
Provide your team support and tools for navigating challenges.
Whether the issue is technical or interpersonal, your job is to help your team develop options for handling the situation now and in the future. When an employee brings up a challenge, ask what kind of support would be helpful, but avoid putting yourself at the center of the challenge. Sometimes information and context gaps need to be closed, and the solution can be as simple as directing your team member to the right person to talk to.
Other times, you might find yourself carrying around a huge amount of company- or domain-specific knowledge that needs to be transferred. In these cases, there’s no way around spending the time it takes to bring your team member up to speed. However, when you couple this time investment with the additional expectation that your team member will create reference documentation for future members, you reinforce learning and build a stronger knowledge base for your team.
That’s not to say that you should never play a role in navigating challenges; in fact, managers are often better positioned to see the systematic forces creating the challenge. If a systems-level challenge is best addressed at a higher level in the organization, you must work with your leadership and/or peers to find solutions at a systems level. For example, a lack of clarity on roles and responsibilities can cause persistent friction between teams, and misaligned goals can unnecessarily bring different parts of the organization into conflict and create power struggles. In these cases, the leader has an essential role to play in removing ambiguity, finding alignment, and prioritizing solutions.
Help your team embrace discomfort and maintain perspective.
It’s never comfortable to navigate new challenges — even the most emotionally resilient among us still have moments of insecurity when stepping outside our comfort zone. However, you can provide a few mental models to support your team and encourage them to tackle difficult situations. For example:
- Create a “safe-to-try” team environment and embrace a growth mindset
- Model approaching situations with curiosity instead of fear
- Reduce guesswork by clearly communicating assumptions and needs
When things go wrong, model a solutions-oriented, optimistic mindset.
Leaders who model optimism set a positive tone in the workplace, empowering team members to recover from setbacks. If you want your team to navigate challenges independently, the worst thing you can do in the face of a setback is look for who to blame. Developing the organizational muscle to pull together to overcome setbacks is crucial. And while blame is not helpful, team retrospectives can help the team collectively get better at anticipating and avoiding similar setbacks in the future, creating a sense of shared accountability.
For Susan, transitioning from protecting to supporting her team was transformational. Reframing the value you bring to the organization, shifting from doing to coaching, and focusing on creating the right team environment and processes instead of concentrating solely on individual outcomes are all foundational to this transition. Getting out of the middle makes space for the perspective needed to see organizational context more clearly and spend the requisite energy on addressing systems-level challenges. Putting away the managerial umbrella and fitting your organization with ponchos is not easy, but the payoff is worth it.
- Luis Velasquez , MBA, Ph.D. is an executive coach who works with senior leaders and their teams to become more cohesive, effective, and resilient. He is the founder and managing partner of Velas Coaching LLC , a leadership facilitator at the Stanford University Graduate School of Business, a former University professor, and research scientist. Connect with him on LinkedIn.
- KG Kristin Gleitsman , PhD, is the Vice President of Discovery Research at Veracyte, a pioneering global diagnostics company. She has spent nearly a decade building and leading teams in the biotechnology sector.
CRISP-DM Framework: How to solve business problems using data analysis?
Introduction CRISP-DM 6 steps to solve business problems Conclusion
Data analysis has become an integral part of every business, and it provides organizations with valuable insights into customer behavior, market trends, and other key metrics. However, dealing with data can be a complex and daunting task, and businesses need a proper framework to solve their problems. In this article, we explore the CRISP-DM framework, which is widely used to solve business problems using data analysis.
Data has become the backbone of every business operation, and organizations are constantly seeking ways to leverage the power of data to drive growth and increase profitability. However, dealing with data can be a daunting task, and without a proper framework, it can be challenging to make sense of the vast amount of data available. This is where the CRISP-DM framework comes into play.
CRISP-DM (Cross-Industry Standard Process for Data Mining) is a widely used framework for solving business problems using data. The framework provides a structured approach to the entire data mining process, from problem understanding to model deployment, and has become a standard in the industry due to its flexibility and adaptability.
In this article, we will explore the CRISP-DM framework in detail and provide an example of how it can be used to solve a business problem.
Steps to solve business problems:
Step 1: Business Understanding
The first step in the CRISP-DM framework is to establish a clear understanding of the business problem that needs to be solved. This involves identifying the stakeholders and their needs, defining the goals of the project, and setting clear expectations for what success looks like.
During this step, it is essential to ask the right questions to understand the problem fully. For example, what is the scope of the problem? What are the potential roadblocks and risks? What are the business objectives, and how will success be measured?
Ultimately, the goal of this step is to develop a clear and concise problem statement that can be used as a foundation for the rest of the process.
For example, let’s say that a clothing retailer wants to increase sales. The goal of the project may be to identify the factors that impact sales and develop a strategy to increase sales.
Step 2: Data Understanding
The second step in the CRISP-DM framework involves getting to know the data that is available for the project. This includes collecting and reviewing data sources, understanding data quality, and identifying any gaps or missing data that may impact the analysis.
It is important to get a comprehensive understanding of the data and to ask questions such as, what type of data is available? What are the data sources? What are the limitations of the data, and are there any data quality issues?
This step is crucial because it helps to identify potential biases or data quality issues that may impact the analysis. It also helps to identify any additional data that may be required to answer the business problem fully.
For our clothing retailer example, the data sources may include sales data, customer data, marketing data, and inventory data. The quality of the data must be assessed to ensure that the analysis is accurate and relevant.
Step 3: Data Preparation
The third step in the CRISP-DM framework involves preparing the data for analysis. This includes cleaning the data, transforming it into a format that can be used for analysis, and ensuring that the data is structured correctly.
During this step, it is important to perform exploratory data analysis to get a better understanding of the data and to identify any outliers or inconsistencies. It may also be necessary to combine data from multiple sources or to aggregate the data to a higher level of granularity.
Data preparation can be a time-consuming step, but it is essential to ensure that the data is clean and structured correctly before moving on to the modeling step.
For our example, the data may need to be cleaned by removing duplicates and correcting errors. The data may also need to be transformed by converting categorical variables into numerical variables. Additionally, the data may need to be aggregated to the appropriate level of granularity for the analysis.
Step 4: Modeling
The fourth step in the CRISP-DM framework involves selecting and applying appropriate modeling techniques to the prepared data. This step may involve testing multiple models and evaluating their performance to determine the best approach.
There are various modeling techniques that can be used depending on the problem being solved and the data available. Some common modeling techniques include regression analysis, decision trees, clustering, and neural networks.
It is important to choose a model that is appropriate for the problem being solved and that can be easily interpreted by stakeholders.
For our example, regression analysis may be used to identify the factors that impact sales. The model may also include other variables such as seasonality, promotions, and customer demographics.
Step 5: Evaluation
The fifth step in the CRISP-DM framework involves evaluating the model to determine its effectiveness in solving the business problem. This involves testing the model using validation techniques to ensure that it is accurate and reliable.
During this step, it is important to measure the model’s performance using statistical metrics such as R-squared, mean squared error (MSE), and accuracy. It may also be necessary to test the model on a holdout sample to ensure that it generalizes well to new data.
The evaluation step is critical to ensure that the model is effective in solving the business problem and that it is reliable enough to be used in the decision-making process.
For our example, the regression model must be evaluated using statistical measures such as R-squared and mean squared error (MSE). The model must also be tested on a holdout sample to ensure that it generalizes well to new data.
Step 6: Deployment
The final step in the CRISP-DM framework involves deploying the model into the business environment and integrating it into the decision-making process. This step involves ensuring that the model is user-friendly, easy to interpret, and accessible to stakeholders.
During this step, it may be necessary to provide training to stakeholders on how to use the model and to develop a plan for ongoing maintenance and support.
For our example, the regression model may be integrated into the retailer’s point-of-sale system to provide real-time sales predictions. The model may also be used to develop a pricing strategy and to target promotions to specific customer segment.
The CRISP-DM framework is an essential tool for businesses that want to leverage the power of data to drive growth and profitability. By following the six steps of the framework, organizations can gain a better understanding of their business problems, analyze their data, develop models, evaluate their performance, and deploy them into their decision-making process. By doing so, businesses can gain valuable insights into their operations and make informed decisions that can drive growth and profitability in the long run.
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Through that compassionate energy, as opposed to the energy of judgment, the bully can learn to take care of herself, for she can now make choices to do, say, think and feel the things that bless...
Deal with a bully by walking away, reporting the bully, and asking them to stop if it's safe. If you see someone being bullied, step in right away and separate them. Set a good example for others and stand up for people who need help. Talk to your school administrators if you need help or call law enforcement.
Here are five steps you can take if your child is having problems with a bully: Believe what your child tells you. This is an important first step and will help your child trust that you are able to help him with his problem. Accept what he has to say at face value by attentively listening to them without interruption.
Solving the problem of bullying has no one-size-fits-all solution, and typically requires a multi-pronged approach. The first step towards addressing the issue of bullying is simply raising awareness among responsible adults about the seriousness of the problem. Teachers, administrators, and parents must be given the tools and information to ...
1) Tell Someone. The vast majority, 90%, of teens agree that cyberbullying a problem, and 63% believe this is a serious problem. Unfortunately, most teens also believe that schools, politicians and social media companies are failing to address the problem. The good news is that most teens also feel that their parents are effective allies.
1) Recognize and Respond. Bullying and intolerance manifest as verbal, written or physical acts that harm another person. Educate students, parents and staff about taking bullying seriously and how to recognize it. Make an action plan to respond swiftly to incidents and daily teasing. Identify and monitor places where most bullying happens (e.g ...
Try to talk to the bully. Try to point out that his or her behavior is serious and harmful. This can work well if you notice that a member of your own group has started to pick on or shun another member. Practice confidence. Practice ways to respond to the bully verbally or through your behavior.
Solving a bullying problem requires analysis of the problem by the target and/or bystanders, and sometimes intervention by the teacher. Problem-solving skills can help children analyze and solve bullying problems.
Published: Mar. 06, 2023, 8:00 p.m. NEW! By. Judith Martin. GENTLE READERS: The clash between people who don't want to return to the office (employees) and those who want them to do so ...
However, you can provide a few mental models to support your team and encourage them to tackle difficult situations. For example: Create a "safe-to-try" team environment and embrace a growth ...
In this article, we will explore the CRISP-DM framework in detail and provide an example of how it can be used to solve a business problem. Steps to solve business problems: Step 1: Business Understanding. The first step in the CRISP-DM framework is to establish a clear understanding of the business problem that needs to be solved.